My boyfriend of 4 years was shocked when I told him I never actually came during intercourse—with him or anybody else. I can understand why.
I would get turned on and of course, I enjoyed s e x but there was no endpoint for me. I never had an orgasm. I faked it, every time. *Guilty*
I didn’t mind. But it was difficult for my partner to wrap his head around the fact that I had never experienced complete pleasure.
He tried different techniques with his hands, with oral and he could see me enjoying myself but at some point, I would lose it. I do not masturbate which makes it even more challenging for both of us to know what works for me and what doesn’t.
But instead of giving up, he discovered a few more tricks and I am grateful because oh my God, I was missing out on a lot.
Sharing a compilation of the things my partner tried for the lads who are in a similar situation and don’t know what to do.
He Took The Pressure Off
“Are you there yet?” “I can’t be satisfied until you orgasm.” “You’re the only woman I’ve been with who has had this problem.”
The tone of such statements can add pressure to a scenario that’s supposed to be relaxing.
If a woman has ever told you that she has never faked an orgasm, chances are that it was a lie. So understand that not having an orgasm isn’t a “problem” and it is definitely not exclusive to one woman.
If you truly want her to reach climax, don’t bring up the topic of orgasm. Set her at ease and tell her that you want to make her feel good. If she has an orgasm, that’s great but your priority is to make her feel good.
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Paid Full Attention To Me
A lot of women have a hard time focusing on their pleasure and being the centre of attention in bed, I was one of them.
My partner reminded me that he enjoys focusing on me and I don’t need to worry about him. If I still end up overthinking about his pleasure, he’ll give me time to make up for it later.
He focused on the best possible way to make a woman orgasm—using fingers, mouth or both on clit. Penetration alone cannot make a woman orgasm.
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Told Me What He Likes About My Body
Most women are embarrassed about the appearance, taste and smell of their genitals. It’s likely that your partner will have her guards up when you’re trying to get close and personal.
My boyfriend made me comfortable by adding tons of compliments to our conversation.
Saying things like you think she tastes amazing or you could get lost between her legs can help her relax and drop the judgement.
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- Reduces sensitivity
- Does not overly numb the skin
- Boosts the overall pleasurable experience
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- It is edible, and safe to use for oral pleasures
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- Apply 10-15 minutes before the desired effect
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- How to use (Vibe):
He Tried Teasing & It Worked
The biggest mistake men make is going way too fast when pleasuring a woman. This isn’t a race, so take your time! Women love being teased. Spend plenty of time nibbling her neck, kissing and touching her thighs and rubbing her labia while she’s wearing her underwear.
Excite her first so there’s enough room for her to ask for more.
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- Hold the container approximately 10 cm from the organ and spray.
- Spray 2-3 times, to cover the penile skin and let it dry.
- Apply 10-15 min before action is desired.
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Stimulated The Clitoris
The clitoris is more delicate than the cock. So be gentle with it. Start by touching it softly and slowly. Very, very gradually work your way up to more speed and pressure. A woman is more likely to orgasm from simple, consistent strokes so use your fingers or your tongue.
Try stroking back and forth diagonally across the surface of her clit with your finger. Try going in circles around her clit using your tongue.
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Directions: Take the cream into your palm, rub it evenly and apply it to sensitive areas for warm and pleasant sensations.
Communicated After
Not every guy is looking for feedback after having intercourse but communicating can actually make things easier for your partner. Questions like “what do you want?” or “what should I do?” will not get you great responses, it will rather put your girlfriend in an uncomfortable position.
Take a smarter route and give her two different experiences to choose from. Then, ask her, “Do you like it better when I do this or this?”
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He Was Patient
It takes about 20 minutes for a woman to reach orgasm. The number differs from person to person but you want to be able to sustain the same movement for that long.
It’s equally important to help her feel comfortable about being the centre of attention. If you notice her getting impatient, tell her how much you’re loving this, so you’ll continue until she tells you she wants you to stop.
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He Enjoyed The Moment!
There’s nothing hotter than having a passionate partner. If you have a favourite move, go for it. Do what you enjoy—touching her, giving oral. This will help her relax too.
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The Bottomline
Most women are hard-wired to neglect their pleasure and it is changing with time but till then, bear with us.
While girls are emotionally intelligent, men understand the importance of Erotic pleasure. This is why you guys can do a fantastic job at bringing your partner up to speed by helping her experience the best of both worlds.
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