Why are most women attracted to the motorcycle types, the dirty and grungy looking Lotharios that their mothers and fathers told them not to mess with?
Is it because of these men's inherent good looks, smoldering bad boys? Or is it a simple case of bad psychology: women really don't know what's good for them?
Believe it or not, bad boys give off a certain aura that some women find hopelessly irresistible.
It's so good to be bad. Or in this case, it's so good to be involved with someone bad. For one, there is adventure. Either, some find themselves in their own little movie or romance novel that being with or being involved with the villain is simply enticing.
Both the film and book versions of the Bridget Jones saga seem to reflect the same sentiments. Why would a woman who already has her gentlemanly Darcy still find something attractive in the diabolical Cleaver? The other one is so mean and so manipulative. While the other one is so upright and sometimes a bit tense. So who should a confused woman choose?
Basically, it's a bit of a fact. Women love the little bad things that happen to men. Some do so because they love the drama. A relationship with the wrong man gets most women's juices flowing. Dating them is unpredictable. One minute they can be out having a nice cozy dinner, the next minute they can be in a dark street corner negotiating. Meanwhile, dating straight men can be nice, simple, conventional, and unsurprising. What follows a leisurely dinner may be talked, and then more talk and a walk. Convenient, safe and sometimes it can be romantic. Although some find such a scenario boring.
Sometimes a date or relationship with all the vices found in men is a great topic of conversation for women the next day. Women love to nitpick every gory detail about their bad, bad men. How bad they were, etc. However, women also like to talk about how good their men were, i.e. in bed.
Sometimes, boys who are bad or those who have been bad are referred to as wolves or foxes. There may be a reason for this term. Both animals are predators. Women shouldn't tread in such murky waters, but sometimes they do. Believe it or not, it's the s e x UAL opportunity and excitement that brings women, or at least draws them into the waiting arms of a masculine predator.
Let's face it. Predators, or rather men, can also sometimes be charming, if not handsome. No wonder, it's so conveniently easy to fall head over heels for them. Moreover, there is the dream fantasy of most women that only they have this amazing and almost divine quality to change all the bad men in their lives for the better.
Fortunately or unfortunately, bad men make some women feel instantly s e x y. That's a big difference from guys who are advertised as good, who sometimes discourage some of their women from being as good as they can be.
However, there are certain facts that simply cannot be ignored. There really is and really should be no excuse for being bad. Some men are simply insensitive, and no amount of patience, hope, wishful thinking, and dreaming can cover up his wickedness. Men who are like this - please remember that they are not and perhaps cannot be that genuinely in love with the women in their lives. Believe it or not, they may be more in love with each other than with anyone else. Try as much as possible not to fall for his own profession of his love for you. It's likely, and there's a good chance it will happen, that his I love you could be a way for him to get what he wants with you.
All in all, dating bad men is only good for this purpose. Adventure, s e x UAL or otherwise, is good in the short term. Long-term relationships require mutual trust and respect, and a little kindness wouldn't hurt at all.
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