Why do you need to get upset by expectations?
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Many times we get sad by non fulfillment of our expectations which we have from others. The term expectation has a lot of meaning. When you google this term you get loads of results which you can interpret in various ways. But I mean to use this term in a situational context. It is the situation when you want certain things to be done by other people or want a certain type of behaviour from others.
As human beings we are quite concerned with how people behave with us. Especially, people care about it more when the person is close to their life. But when the other person doesn't reciprocate in the same manner we get disappointed. But why do you need to always depend on others for your happiness? Why can't you be happy by yourself?
The reasons for not depending on others for your own happiness:
Be the master of your own life
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The Minds Journal states that – "You become a master of your life when you learn how to control where your attention goes. Value what you give your energy and time to." So, rather than giving attention to what others are giving you, give yourself what you really want. Don't let people control you in a way so that you are no longer part of your own happiness.
Don't burden other people unnecessarily
By having expectations from others you are not only ruining your happiness but also burdening the other person with the task of keeping up to your expectations. If someone has to do something for you without actually having intent to do so, it would put him under pressure. It would be symbolic of actually forcing that person to please you. So, better follow the quote given by Leon Brown which is – “Let people do what they need to do to make them happy. Mind your own business, and do what you need to do to make you happy.”
Key to happiness lies within you
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“The thing everyone should realize is that the key to happiness is being happy by yourself and for yourself.” This quote by Ellen DeGeneres is a classic example of self love and self dependency. The moment you were born as an individual, you acquired your unique identity. People recognise you by what you do; not by what others do. Though momentarily some great work done by your parents or family earn you accolades or fame as well but eventually you have to make your own name and establish yourself in this world.
Expectation is a silent killer
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Expectation is like a silent killer. You would expect everyday hoping that everyone or a particular person would behave in a desired manner. But there are chances that your hopes might get shattered and it might not happen that way. So, each passing day your hopes get broken piece by piece. It doesn't let you live happily and brings a lot of pessimism in your life. So, why to drive your source of happiness from others by expecting? It is better if you are done away with it and do something for yourself. Give yourself your precious freedom. Freedom from any expectation that might hinder your happiness and damage your life.
Some expectations may be wrong
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Don't assume that you are always on the right side. Sometimes you may be on fault for assuming unrealistic or wrong expectations in life. Life gives hard hitting lessons so that you come out tougher and gain experience that prepares you for your life. So, to expect that everything would go as per your assumption is a misconception and would be fatal for your growth as an individual. Here is the list of unrealistic expectations cited by Forbes that may ruin your life.
Concluding, with this view that life is a bittersweet experience. It's on you to mold it in order to serve you the best. Treat the things which you get as assets and the things which you don't get as important lessons for your life. So, never get upset. Motivate yourself and go with the flow of life.
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