Why a Special 50th Birthday Night …

Last night, I received a call from a female friend. It was the night before her 50th birthday, and although she had dressed better than most, it was still a big deal for her. I would like to remind gentlemen that there is a natural and strong natural difference in the women of this age, as they are experiencing natural death during these years - the person who had children from their youth disappears, and in a DIFFERENT person a person emerges. So this is NOT about vanity or beauty; a lot more than that on all levels and no wonder my friend felt insecure. DON'T want to get into this first night in the 50th year of life full of regret, worry, grief and loss of life; he was looking for something better, a celebration of the moment, described in terms of how we measure time and count days. We could easily have talked about the last hour and the half before the clock struck midnight and tried to ignore this thing; but I did not think this was appropriate as it was a personal change so we started discussing the appropriate temporary culture. Instead of now doing some kind of “death ritual” in which a person engages in all the bad things in his or her life, such as, “I will never hold my baby again…” and “I will never hold my baby again… do not dance Rolling Stones live in Catacomb with a mini skirt and… ”I suggested we focus on the last year, the 49th year. What happened that year? Well quite a lot, actually. My friend lived in a house by the sea that he always sought. He had written and published his first book. He had written his first song, had his first public exhibition of his paintings and swam with dolphins. What a wonderful way! And how wonderful to think that if we could go back in just two years, reach his 48th birthday, and talk about what would happen, and I would probably raise one of these things, he would NEVER believe it possible and laugh at me. So what could the 50th year hold in the way of new and unusual surprises ?! We will never know. But one thing we do not know is the year of new life, of new experiences, of new challenges, of victory and of glorious times. And it should be entered with pride, with joy, and with full acceptance to come. It was decided that she would cry immediately for a good bath, light candles and a glass of champagne. Spending time before 12 midnight to give thanks for what has already happened, and to spend time meditating after a strong turn to the future, to have a place to ask for things that may have been waiting for years to come true and to be knowledgeable. ; to have the space to ask for amazing things and to announce one's readiness for action, fresh, clean and literally new, to enter a new year of life here in this wonderful world. This is what my friend then did, alone, for himself and it was a happy, magical and special event, without regrets and instead, with a powerful uplifting and affirmative life, and the love of life. He slept soundly, and in the morning a box of helium balloon with 50 large numbers exploded, filled his carpet with small shiny pieces of foil, all marked "50", laughed happily and said, "This will be a wonderful year… ”Happy Birthday, Nicola!