Be generous with your affection.
Tell your special guy that you love him. Treat him to lots of hugs, kisses, and snuggling — whatever you know he likes. Remind him that he's the perfect one for you and that you couldn't ask for anyone better. If he knows you're being sincere, this will make him feel special.
If Hollywood is to be believed, the only thing you need in a successful relationship is to treat your partner nicely. But in reality, maintaining a loving relationship takes significant work. For instance, there are days when you are going to annoy each other. And while you (hopefully) have a lot in common, your significant other is also bound to have hobbies and interests that completely bore you. If you are dating a guy, what can you do to keep the relationship strong? Here are seven suggestions that you should take to heart.
1. Compliment him
The stereotype is that only women like to be told they are attractive, fashionable, and intelligent. But even the most confident of guys need to be reminded from time to time that they are ridiculously good-looking. So let him know you love that outfit — whether it’s a dress shirt or an old, beat up a t-shirt that he only wears around the house — or his new haircut. Wrap your arms around him, sniff his neck and tell him his cologne drives you wild! These are simple things that make him feel great for the rest of the day!
2. Remind him that he’s appreciated
Even if your guy has a job that he enjoys, there are bound to be times when he feels stressed out and frustrated. Of course, if he hates his job, there’s a good chance he has contemplated leaving, but sticks to it for the sake of you. Although times are changing, men are still, by and large, the breadwinners in the family. But they want to know that you value them for more than just the money they bring home. So when they’ve had a difficult day at work, take the time to remind them that they are loved and that they always have your support.
3. Keep the romance going
After being with somebody for a while, they stop being “new” to you. And, of course, as you age you are no longer the young, spirited couple that you were back in the day. But that doesn’t mean the romance has to stop. Plan getaways for just the two of you. Or if you’ve got no time to fly to the other side of the world, stay the night at a hotel even if it’s in the same town you live in. Remember that he doesn’t have to be a s e x god to be your s e x god.
4. Give him space
It can be difficult to acknowledge that sometimes your guy needs some time away from you. This doesn’t mean they love you any less, it’s just that everybody needs a break from time to time. This might mean letting him get a drink with his co-workers once a week after they clock out. Or giving him a chance to pursue hobbies that might not be of interest to you. Likewise, you can use this time to enjoy a bit of alone time by planning your own activities. The time you spend apart will actually allow you to appreciate the time you spend together!
Boredom Concept. Young couple using smart phones, sitting on couch at home during self isolation
5. Put down your phone
This is a difficult habit to quit, but when you’re spending time with your boyfriend or husband, it’s really important to focus the attention on him, not on the tweets and Instagram posts. Social media can always wait. Of course, there are times when you have to take a phone call or answer a text message when an urgent situation arises, but have the courtesy to explain that the babysitter is calling or a colleague has an important work-related question that needs answering. Once you’ve taken care of the situation, return your eyes to him.
6. When you treat yourself, treat him too
If you’re picking up a latte for yourself, grab one for him too! Got the tea kettle going? Make him a cup of tea as well. If you’re at a store to buy something that you need, think about something useful that he would like, or even something completely random! This lets him know that when you’re out and about taking care of your wants, you’re still thinking about him. It’s easy to make anybody feel happier — kids and adults alike — when they know they’re not being left out.
7. Make eye contact
You don’t have to stare at him dreamily like you did with your crush back in high school, but taking a moment to connect eye-to-eye reminds him that he’s the only one for you. Hold his gaze for three seconds and don’t forget to be flirtatious and of course show him your Hollywood smile! It will make him feel like he’s the only one in the room. Who doesn’t feel loved when they know you have their full attention?
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