Acceptance.
I first thought, when exactly does 1 start to yearn for acceptance?
Is it when we are born?
Is it when we first feel the pain of non-acceptance?
Is it when we begin to be challenged in sports?
Is it when we fall into the ever-talked-about peer pressure.
Is it when we fall in love?
Is it when we start a new job?
Is it when we become a new member of a family?
Is it when we move to a new city or country?
Is it when we write our very first book or article?
I believe it is all of the above; when people feel the need to be accepted, they will do leaps and bounds to succeed in the quest.
Athletes and bodybuilders will take drugs to win.... Winning is equal to acceptance.
When we fall in love, our entire being wants to feel accepted by our mate.
When authors spend hours and are asked to write the exact words to please their readers, they go to great lengths to publish their creations.
Becoming a new member of a family, when it is through marriage or a depiction, will create a need to be natural as one who genuinely belongs.
Starting a new job is a definite acceptance need; we need to fit in to relax and apply our self hundred percent to our job.
Moving to a new country or city or even just a new neighborhood is very challenging for us, and to be accepted and fit in is a crucial step in our settling in.
Let's not forget peer pressure that's a tough one; children just getting started in high school suffered the most with this one, hormones are swimming, and their emotions are so sensitive, the fears that they have struggled with for the year before is all up front and have a whole lot of reality to deal with. To fit in and be accepted by their peers is more than half the battle.
Being a baby e has a world of the need to be accepted and see our parents smile when we please them.
The pain of non-acceptance for the first time cuts like a knife. It wounds bus for life, creating a square that we grow with forever.
All these worries, needs, and desires are in all of us that leave and breath; some of us feel the hunger for acceptance less than others. Some of us cannot live without acceptance; we become obsessed with our thinking, trying anything we can to fit in.
Do you read the words self-esteem in anything I have written today? Yep, and it is every sentence. S -,s, If you know the feeling of non-acceptance or low self-esteem, you know how controlled you are by following them and how much of your life is imprisoned by the other mind. The need for acceptance somehow affects our self-esteem, which affects our emotional stability where jealousy, worry, and anxiety seed from.......
Self-acceptance by letting of ego
Low self-esteem and nonacceptance are exactly that in another mind, and one can actually feel them at war. It reminds me of the good devil and bad devil scenario, trust me here it is no fun for the person that is imprisoned by it; not only do they have to balance the two minds, but they also have the guilt that they feel when they see what the result of the battle is their head is doing to the people around them. The constant questions that one faces as in my blog feelings...!!!! Are n added paint to the already lonely, tortured person?
so if anyone out there knows a person that suffers from not acceptance or low self esteem,hug them and please try to have more patience and understand that they are not having a picnic and that if just saying, stop it or just don't think about it could stop it, they would in a heartbeat. We all need support and acceptance to get us through our lows. Kicking someone when they are down will never help them to get up.
You do not need anyone to love
I am doing what I can to my website and my blog to help educate people and help them understand what low esteem is all about and how every instance and serious it is.
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