"A good marriage is one that allows for change and growth in the individuals and the way they express their love." –Pearl S. Buck
When two people get married, it means they are making a big commitment. It means they should stay together in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, until death do them part. Entering into a marital relationship is a sign of the fullness of their deep romantic love for each other. However, their mutual love is tested over time. First, there would be an adjustment period. All couples go through this. They say you only know the person when you both live under the same roof.
The routine of everyday life brings unrealistic expectations. Marital disillusionment comes and manifests shortly after the honeymoon fever subsides. This is the time when imperfections are visible. Flaws can be blown out of proportion. Some eccentric behavior that you used to find "cute" now becomes annoying. In addition to your own problems as a couple, you have to deal with relatives, financial matters and certain conflicts that have become the cause of your stress and anxiety.
When negative emotions and actions take hold, it becomes the perfect recipe for marital disharmony. If you don't become aware of your own hurtful attitudes or actions, chances are you won't do anything about it. Marriage is acceptance of who the person really is. We just need to practice self-control and learn not to have so many expectations.
The following tips will show you how to bring that "flavor" back into your married life:
TIPS TO BRING ROMANCE BACK INTO YOUR MARRIAGE
1. UNDERSTANDING – We all need reassurance. Reinforce it by showing affection, a simple praise, hug or kiss will do. We should learn to communicate our feelings to our partner. Don't be defensive. When you take a small sip... say "I'm sorry". and seriously. The sooner you do this, the sooner your partner will stop hating you.
2. LEARN TO ACCEPT- All marriages go through some obstacles. Turns out the one you married isn't the "angel" you imagined, nor the "knight in shining armor." True love requires a lot of patience. Get over your illusions about what your partner is or should be like. Instead, focus on yourselves and start making the necessary changes needed to improve who you are as a couple.
3. MEET HALFWAY – In any situation, especially when you reach a point where you are angry, hurt and frustrated – you need to learn how to meet yourself halfway. In other words, you need to know how to compromise or negotiate. No two human beings are exactly alike. So settle your differences and learn to forgive each other right away. Don't let the sun go down without you and your partner finding a solution.
4. REKINDLE – How do you refresh and fix a troubled marriage? Bring back love and intimacy. Work on it. Work on your marriage. Like life… marriage is not a bed of roses. You need to work it out with your partner by investing time, love, money and interest in each other. Bring back closeness by being honest, non-arguing and non-judgmental. Being happy together brings good mental and physical health.
Yes, you and your partner should be on top of everything, in charge of keeping the romance alive and letting your marriage blossom as it was meant to.
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