Say there is something you really want to do. It can be as big as moving to another part of the country, or as small as taking an hour off several times a week to pursue a passion. The key thing is I do not know what to say, I'm not ready to do it. This is a sample. Every time you start the sentence "I want to play the piano again" you say in autopilot "but I can not take time from my family" or "It's a silly idea, because I'm too old.
Now, you may be saying that you do not use excuses and that there are only valid reasons why you can not do what you want to do. After all, there are excuses for more irresponsible people "and" it’s definitely not you.
Well, if there's anything you say you want to do, but you have a consistent reason not to do it; There are only 2 explanations for this:
1) You do not really want to do what you say, but you continue to say it because you are not used to it or because you think you should "do it".
2) You really want to do what you say. But, it can be dangerous, forcing you to step outside your comfort zone or confusing those you care about.
If the answer to your illustration is # 1, refrain from saying that this is what you want to do. Don't let it go. **** Remove some part of the case 'and' it will free up your mental and emotional space so that you can do what you really want to do.
The answer for you # 2, however, is that you are using an excuse that allows you to obey your will and provides a logical reason why you may not be able to stay safe and still anxious.
What do excuses look like? If you do not fully hear the crate, you may be spinning your head every day, here is a list of the most common:
- I'm very dumb
- Nobody likes me
- I do not fit
- It's far from home
- I do not have enough money for this
- No time
- No one can have it all
Are any of these known?
We will not make excuses if they do not serve us in some way. It is very difficult to dig a little deeper and accept it, otherwise why do we use them? To torture yourself?
Here are some of the benefits I found of making excuses:
- It allows me to say the right thing about myself (example: "Look, I said I was not good enough!")
- Keeps me safe
- hooks me up (so I can complain and be appreciated by others)
- It is known
After all, it's easy to go with the flow, maintain the status quo, and overestimate the things we really want, especially if they have different hair than the people we're approached and "social" with. Norm ". At least it may seem simple, but it's costly, "and" this cost can be anything from fulfillment in our lives and lack of spark to depression or illness.
Sorry buster
The first key to cracking your excuses is to identify them and understand the rewards you will get by using them.
1) Make a list of 3 things you want to do or want to do regularly. Others why you can not have or do things they can not do.
3) Apply the test beforehand in this article to determine if you really want what you are saying.
a. If the answer is no - then let it go, by all means.
B. If the answer is yes ... keep reading.
Once you've set up a list of excuses for what you really want and used or not, it's time to figure out your payment for not getting what you wanted.
1) Make a list of all the "bad" things you fear if you want to take the risk of getting what you want. Be completely honest and cover up all the evidence, including the worst scenario you can imagine. (Example: If I travel around the country, my family does not love me or come to visit me)
2) Look at your list from the last step and rate it based on how well your fear actually uses a scale of 1 (unlikely) to 5 (absolutely accurate).
What you will find is that if you do what you want to do, the chances of anything terrible happening are very low. And, if something unexpected or unwanted happens, trust that you will find a way to handle it.
So, make a list of things you really want to do and make a plan including any support or resources you need so that it is not "someday"
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