Self-improvement has become the norm. A few years ago, since I was writing articles and posting them on article sites, I have noticed that the Self-Improvement category has been emerging lately as never before. To me, this is very good news.
But what exactly does "Self-Improvement" really mean? What do we really improve when we improve? And what “self” do we develop?
Each of us has two “titles” - the injured and the self-centered. Our own self is our own, our natural soul - our essence. Our identity is our love, our happiness, our gifts and our abilities, our ability to love, our intelligence. We enter this life as the core, and as this Personality is loved and nurtured by our parents, we naturally continue to nurture our God-given gifts and talents and reflect the fullness of our being. This Self seeks to improve by learning the skills needed to fully express oneself.
But if this Personality is not as visible and informed as we used to be, we create another person, a person who we hope will be able to control the love we need and avoid the pain we can bear - the identity that will help us feel it. it is safe. This is our false identity, we who are injured, our self. This is full of false beliefs that we acquired while growing up - superstitions that ultimately limit who you really are. It itself does not need to be repaired - it needs treatment.
The word "self improvement" can sometimes be a little misleading, because we don't want to improve the injured. We do not wish to promote the ways in which we lie, deceive, and avoid in our efforts to control our search for love and to avoid pain. We do not want to improve on our many addictions. We do not want to develop our anger, our obedience, our withdrawal and our resistance.
We want to cure it.
Healing and healing are not the same thing.
We can really improve when it comes to skills. We can improve in sports, art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and well-being by improving our diet and exercise routine. We can improve the knowledge we need in order to be more effective in our work and finances. We can improve our relationships by learning new communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills does not improve our health, our ability to earn money, or our relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us greater happiness and inner peace? It may mean that we need to curb the underlying fear and false beliefs that cause us anxiety, depression, stress, guilt, shame, retaliation, anger, regret, or sadness.
Sometimes Self-improvement simply means doing the right thing, and sometimes it means we need to participate in a deeper healing process. For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight and exercising. But if their appetite suppresses their chronic pain, they may not be able to change their diet. They may need to open up a healing process in order to eventually make progress.
If you are really trying to improve but find yourself stuck and unable to move forward, or find that you have no happiness or inner peace, you may want to open the door to unrelenting pain and beliefs that prevent your progress and cause your pain. It is easy to improve when nothing is blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about your own worthiness and worthiness, these beliefs may limit your ability to take loving action for you. All of your efforts to improve yourself will not bring you the satisfaction you need if you have the beliefs that keep you from the full and true identity. If you are trapped, you will need to seek out a healing process, such as the Inner Bonding process we teach, that will free you from fears and superstitions that limit you. Healing these fears and limited beliefs will open the door to improve your health in every way!
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