What does happiness mean to you? There’s a lot of searching going on these days for the fugitive emotion of “being happy” – where do you find it, how do you produce it, indeed what it actually is. But I’d like to partake a little secret with you—happiness isn't just for a lucky many who were born with it. You see, happiness isn't a commodity you can reach out and touch or put in the refrigerator and take a belt when you need it. Happiness isn't plant on sand in Hawaii (really!) or in a perfect body. It’s not indeed in that perfect relationship that Tom Cruise tries to vend us in the pictures. Yet from the images bombarding you every day, it’s easy to make the mistake that happiness will arrive at your doorstep when you have the rearmost auto, the stylish clothes, a fancy home, isn’t it? It’s easy to get caught in the trap of allowing that if you could just find the right person, they’d arrive with a box of happiness attached to his/ her hipster. But all this does is move you that happiness is a commodity to be plant outside yourself. And that’s where you get off track. Because the secret is that happiness is simply a by-product of creating and living a life that works, a life that you enjoy-whatever that is. Happiness comes from doing what you want, where you want to do it, who whom you want to do it with. And yes, I can hear all of you—But I can’t get the job I want because I’d have to go to academy for 8 times, and I've to live then because I can’t go to move, and what do you mean “who I want to do it with because I want to hang out with Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey or Bill and Hillary Clinton”. And thank you all for making my point for me. You see, happiness starts by believing you have control over your life; and grows by making choices that will give you a sense of well-being, satisfaction. Happiness comes from deciding that you will go to academy for 8 times if that’s what it takes. That you will organize your life until you can go to move. And that YOU decide who to clinch, how important to smile, what music you hear to, and who you hang out with, indeed, if it’s not Bill and Hillary. Happiness is about making the stylish choices you can about who you spend your time with, how you are making your living, how important you learn, what you put into your body. Because when you feel good about the space you’re in, when you’re with people you respect and respect, and they respect and admire you, when you’re working on a design that’s meaningful to you—happiness will shine right through. And that’s no secret. Decide a moment to stop chasing happiness, and rather choose three effects that you love to do, that contribute to your feeling of well-being and satisfaction. Schedule time for them, every day if possible, every week at least. It doesn’t have to be for a long time, just 10 twinkles a day will help you produce the happiness that you’re looking for. Guaranteed. And that’s no secret, moreover.
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