The G-spot is not an anatomical structure but an erogenous zone that may provide intense pleasure for some — but not all — people with vaginas; Rachel Needle, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist and co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, said.
The term was coined in the '80s and named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, who first theorized its existence. The "G" stands for Gräfenberg's last name.
The G-spot is believed to be about 2 inches inside the vagina on the anterior (meaning front) wall, said Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and the founder of Modern Intimacy.
But the exact location of the G-spot varies from person to person. Balestrieri said your G-spot might be a little to the left or right, and it could be closer to the vaginal opening or deeper.
It is believed that G-spot stimulation is stimulation of the internal shafts of the clitoris, Needle said. This is because the clitoris isn't just the small pea-sized external part of the anatomy — that's just the tip of the iceberg. Balestrieri said there are internal roots of the clitoris on either side that may extend up to 4 inches downward.
But it would help if you didn't get hung up on needing to find the G-spot or having a G-spot orgasm. Needle suggested that instead of searching for the specific spot, you should find all the different areas and types of stimulation that work for you.
Furthermore, not everybody experiences pleasure from G-spot stimulation.
"Not everyone is wired for pleasure in this area of the body. If you don't feel pleasure where the G-spot is thought to be, it's OK. There are many other ways to experience sexual bliss and orgasm, including clitoral stimulation, nipple, and anal play, to name a few," Balestrieri said.
Best sex positions to stimulate the G-spot.
Not all sex positions are created equally when it comes to stimulating the G-spot. Balestrieri recommended trying these three positions to hit the G-spot just right.
1. Missionary: This standard position is a great option for G-spot stimulation, especially if you place a pillow or wedge under your hips to elevate your pelvis and give your partner a better angle.
"If you keep your legs closed, the closed missionary position can create more internal containment, which can add to a feeling of pressure and accessibility for more shallow but just-the-right-depth vaginal and G-spot stimulation," Balestrieri said.
2. Doggy style: This position is a tried-and-true way to hit the G-spot, Balestrieri said. Your partner will be stroking the G-spot with every thrust. It's also easy to change up your height and angle of access while in the position, such as switching from being on your hands and knees to laying down more flat on your belly.
"Changing it up gives you and your partner ample ways to learn about your body and where your G-spot is most accessible and sensitive," Balestrieri said.
3. Cowgirl: If the partner with the G-spot wants to take the reins, cowgirl is in the best position. Balestrieri said, when they are in control and on top, they can control the speed, depth, and angle, ensuring the G-spot is properly found and stimulated.
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