Let's face it; If you're looking for marriage advice, you can spend DAYS researching the internet without even scratching the surface of all the marriage advice out there.
But the sad fact is that most people in your situation do... RESEARCH... but NEVER ACT on the concepts and ideas they learn because they come up with "excuses" as to why THEIR situation is DIFFERENT.
Let me tell you… your situation is NOT different. And as EXTREME as MY marriage was… my “situation” was NO different… So why am I qualified to give you marriage advice?
Because I managed to save my marriage…alone…after 27 years of fights, car chases and battles to have her way and mine.
Our marriage was as bad as it gets. You see, I married my COMPLETE OPPOSITE.
In fact, you'd think we were from different planets if you compared our habits, values, priorities, and temperaments... and that's before you consider our male and female differences... which brings me to one of the best pieces of advice about the marriage i can give you...
1. LEARN THE "5 LOVE LANGUAGES" When I discovered this critical marriage advice, it really opened my eyes to EXACTLY what made my wife happy.
We often want our partner to treat us a certain way, but we never actually tell them what we want them to do!
Gary Chapman, author of The Five Living Languages, makes it easy to communicate what you need from your partner to feel loved… and what they need from you!
When I found out what made my wife feel loved...I was SHOCKED! She wanted "acts of service" of all things! I thought if I liked "words of affirmation"...that she would too!
I hated "chores" (aka housework, gardening, and repairs) and that's exactly why I wasn't meeting her needs!
I didn't realize what I was doing wrong until I read this book. ...which reminds me...here's another great piece of marriage advice to keep in mind...
Many couples make the BIG mistake of treating their partner the way they would like their partner to treat them!
In other words, smothering your spouse in hugs and kisses won't make him/her want to hug/kiss you more if what they really need from you is "acts of service" like taking out the trash or cleaning the house!
If you want to improve your marriage and get your spouse to meet your needs by meeting theirs FIRST, I highly recommend this book.
You can find it at: http://www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com/gary.html Now, I've never seen anyone talk about this last piece of marriage advice, so pay close attention…
2. YOU CANNOT IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE UNTIL YOU FEEL ABOUT IT FIRST Many people look for a recipe for a happy marriage by trying to get a simple LIST of things they can do and then simply "check items off their list".
But unfortunately, that's not how REAL married life works. I could give you a long list of marriage advice that would improve your relationship, but that list won't do you any good.
If you're like most married couples, you won't act on ANY marriage advice… until you feel like doing it FIRST.
Being told to "go do something" to improve your marriage will NOT change your relationship if you resent your spouse and feel so negative that you can't even bring yourself to do it!
The key is to actually FEEL like you are going to do something positive for your marriage…and THEN do it.
Believe me; it is MUCH easier to do something nice for your spouse when you are feeling optimistic about your marriage… than to “force” yourself to be the first to make a move towards a better marriage.
Now I know what you're thinking. “How do I get to the point where I FEEL to do something to improve my marriage? I'm so frustrated with my husband right now!"
Well, I'm glad you asked. I am offering a FREE mini-course on "How to overcome your negative feelings...the moment they appear."
If you're at all interested, keep reading to jump right into the mini-course…
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