When ever I’ve read this article, I learn something new about myself, the way I show love, and those relationships close to me. So I’m incredibly excited to share it with you, all in the hopes that you find as much inspiration from it as I do.
What is love?
Love is not only to be with someone you love, love is much more than that, love is when a person is worried about another person, when a person starts being angry because he is disappointed on the person he loves, when a person doesn’t think about words coming out of his mouth because love and everything that person has fought for has been hurt. If a person loves another person and in the meanwhile person has been hurt or disappointed by a person he loves, the only thing a person can get is huge and unstoppable wind which comes so fast and blows over person heart so that nothing can stop it, no one can think at something else but frustration, hate, anger and disappointment. That doesn’t happen because a person doesn’t love another person, it happens exactly because he actually loves that person, otherwise he wouldn’t care about that or be disappointed or angry.
In relationship, two persons can’t be successful without mixed feelings. You know why? Because that relationship wouldn’t be between two persons, not between humans. We are not created to have only one feeling in our heart, we are created to have mixed feelings, otherwise we wouldn’t exist, right? To have mixed feelings doesn’t always have to mean something bad, sometimes it can help in understanding of each other feelings. One human is not created to be robot, human is not created to be programmed, not to repeat same thing over and over without quitting or changing something. Of course that mixed feelings can lead to some bad stuff, like being disappointed or being angry, frustrated, but it cannot lead to a catastrophe, because if a person truly loves someone else, then relationship between them is unbreakable, then there is no problem that cant be solved for them, then there is no trap that cant be avoided, then everything is possible, even the things whole world thinks are not.
We all know love is a constant ebb and flow of emotions, and even the strongest, healthiest relationships need help & advice sometimes.
A love that’s alive is also constantly evolving. It expands on nothing, but contracts and mellows and deepens. It’s not going to be the way it used to be, or the way it will be, and it shouldn’t be.
Love is also far more satisfying and meaningful. And, at the last of the day, it brings true happiness, not just another series of highs.
Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
A lot is made about “sacrifices” in a relationship. You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself for your partner and their wants and needs. There is some truth to that. Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times. But the problem is when always relationship’s happiness is contingent on the other person and both people are in a constant state of sacrifice. Just keep in mind that a relationship based on sacrifices cannot be sustained, and will eventually become damaging to both individuals in it.
I think when people talk about the necessity for good communication. Say the ugly things and get it all out in the open.
Yours Ever,
Kowshik Barua
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