Adoption not only gives you the opportunity to make the most of your life, it also gives your child a better chance for the future.
The human need is to belong and adoption can create challenging inner questions associated with this innate need and these existential questions can resolve or perpetuate and limit life, love and the world of work.
Adoption changes life for the better, so adoption is a process in which an individual or parents legally adopt another’s child and raise as their own and aims to effect a permanent change in status and as such requires societal recognition.
The adoption experience for adoptive parents, the children themselves and the birth parents is beyond most people’s knowledge and has its own uniqueness.
This article examines some of the changes surrounding adoption and offers some ideas from a theoretical framework that may be useful in exploring solutions.
When a child or young adult is adopted in a way that respects and acknowledges the place of their natural parents, they can flourish. Additionally, if a child is adopted by parents who are either unable to have children of their own or have chosen to have children of their own, this can be especially satisfying for the adopted child.
If the adoptive parents give a place in their hearts to the parents who gave them their child, then the adopted child can have an inner statement, an inner ‘sentence for life’ something like this: “I have twice the resources of others. I am loved twice over.” In these circumstances there is much less need to seek for completion; they have all the resources they need and they can live life to the fullest.
Many adult children of adoptive parents feel this way and succeed in life, love and at work because when children are adopted they respect their birth parents and give them their place, they can be very good. No one is excluded, everyone has their place.
These children often grow up to be very intelligent, able to work in a variety of environments, cheerful and generous in giving and receiving love and thrive on the gift of multiplicities of belonging. This has been manifest in life and work, enabling to relate to, work across and work with diverse cultures and organizations.
Adoption will affect the child’s view of himself / herself, it depends entirely on how society feels about him / her. Even more the parents who adopted them. If there is a friendly relationship between the child and the parent, I don’t think society can influence it much, because the child can always clarify doubts with the parents in the end.
There can be many reasons for adopting children. It is possible that they themselves were adopted and want to give back what they received. Childlessness is also a common reason people adopt children.
Then there are some amazing people who adopt because they don’t want to wait for their partners to arrive in their lives. There are so many single parents out there. Then there are so many other factors like falling in love with a child or because they want to help the community.
It is really difficult for parents to put their child up for adoption. People put children up for adoption because there are times when parents don’t have the means to give their children a good lifestyle.
Some people even become single and don’t want it, so they put their child up for adoption. Adoption can also be chosen by a woman who becomes pregnant in her teen years.
Contemporary adoption practices can be open or closed adoption. An open adoption allows for the exchange of personal information between the adoptive and birth parents and sometimes interaction between relatives and the adopted person can be interrupted by the adopted parents caring for the child.
Closed adoption (also known as privacy or confidentiality or secret adoption), which has not been the norm for most of modern history today, seals off all identification, preserves confidentiality and protects the privacy of adoptive parents, biological relatives and adoptee from disclosure. However, closed adoption may allow for the disclosure of anonymous information such as medical history, religion and ethnicity.
Adoptions can occur between people who are or are not related by blood. Intra-family adoption can also occur through surrender or abandonment, for example, because a parent died or the child can no longer be cared for and a family member agrees to take over the custody.
Unrelated adoptions can be accomplished through Private domestic / self-directed adoptions. Under this arrangement, foster care, charities and for-profit organizations act as intermediaries, bringing together prospective adoptive parents with families who want to place a child, all parties being residents of the same country. Alternatively, prospective adoptive parents sometimes avoid intermediaries and connect with women directly, often with a written contract.
Foster care adoption. This is a type of domestic adoption in which the child is initially placed in public care. Many times the foster parents take on the adoption when the children becomes legally free or independent.
International adoption. This involves the giving up or placing of a child for adoption outside the child's country of birth. This can be done through public or private agencies. The laws of different countries vary in their willingness n how they allow international adoptions in order to make an effort to protect those involved from the corruption and exploitation which sometimes accompanies or goes along with it.
Embryo adoption is based on the donation of additional embryos remaining after the couple's treatments have been completed. Embryos are given to or donated to another individual or couple which is then followed by the placement of those embryos into the recipient woman's uterus to support or facilitate pregnancy and childbirth.
Common law adoption is an adoption that has not been recognized beforehand in advance by the courts, but where a parent, without resorting to any sort of formal legal proceedings, leaves his or her children for an extended period of time with a friend or relative. After the specified period of (voluntary) cohabitation, as witnessed by the public, the adoption is then considered binding in some courts of law, even if it was not originally approved or sanctioned by the court. The practice is called "private foster care."
Adoption by same-sex couples. In this case one partner in a same-sex couple adopts the child of the other partner.
Transracial adoption is where a colored child is placed with white parents. Hoping that the color difference will not deprive the child of the love and understanding or would not match up to the love and belonging the child would feel with its new family.
Generally, adoption is about doing what is in the best interest of the child. This way, children can have a life better than what was offered to them. You will also find that adoption is an option to provide the child a better future.
Adoption records are important to maintain as information about the child being adopted or the family putting the child up for adoption in put together by the adoption agencies.
It includes:
· A family and social background
· Adoptive parents' physical health, emotional maturity, financial situation
· Adoptive parents with the names, addresses and any other identifying information about the birth family
· Birth parents and the birth family
· Child abuse registry
· Criminal background check
· Dental history
· Developmental history
· Education level attained
· Ethnic and racial background
· Field of occupation
· Genetic history
· Hobbies
· Immunization records
· Intellectual health history
· List of any drugs the birth mother toke during her pregnancy with the child
· Medical history
· Physical appearance,
· Religious background
· School records
· Talents
· Whether or not the child being put up for adoption is eligible for any adoption assistance
Adoption is not easy thing to do, but most things worth doing are not easy. Everyone involved in the adoption process will face or experience unique challenges, there will also be unique adoption benefits.
Benefits in adoption for everyone involves:
· Access to resources to pursue dreams and aspirations
· Adoptees getting the gift of a loving and supportive family
· Adoptive parents being able to start or add to their family
· Birth parents giving their baby the best life possible
· Cross-cultural exposure fosters open-mindedness
· Providing stable and loving homes
· Strong sense of belonging and identity
Final thoughts, adoption can be a highly effective solution to great or major difficulties in a parents’ lives and is often a positive and nourishing or nurturing experience that gives a child the chance to grow up in a loving family system.
It thus offers a way to support the child, which was not personally or financially possible for the parents. In other words, it appears to be an elegant solution to a complex and sometimes urgent problem.
Adoption can grant or give you a second chance to get an education and fulfill your goals, while creating the opportunity for your child to grow or to be raised in a home with a loving family who have always dreamed of being parents.
Through adoption we create pathways to a better and brighter futures, nurture connections and strengthen communities. Adoption is a conscious act of respect and love – for one’s relationship, parents and adopted child – then life and love can flow.
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