A big step from engagement to marriage. It is not only the exchange of rings and wedding vows, it is the exchange of one lifestyle for another. Even as a busy person, you have some freedom, which means you have your own space. You are your own person for some part of your day or night. In marriage, it almost or completely disappears.
No matter how much freedom you have in your married life, no matter how loose the boundaries - now you still have to remember that there is someone else you need to keep 100% in your life cycle! If you are late for work, you need to make sure your spouse knows. If you do not go home for lunch, they need to know. If you can not get dry cleaning on the way home, they need to know if they can get it the next day if they need it! It was a significant life change. At first, it looks like you are replying back to your parents! You can even rebel against this idea. But think once. Your spouse will always go through the door at 6.52am - give or take 4 minutes. You had dinner at the table. By 7.20pm, the food was cold 'and' they hadn’t arrived yet. At 8.25 when they walked through the door, you were half way to dial the number of the local hospital, because you knew for sure that something had happened to them. They smiled and apologized for being late, 'but' they got stuck in the meeting at the last minute. Do not think about the pain you inflict on them by hurting them or portraying them worse! You do not want to be frustrated if you cannot get the right pitch, so invest in a good capo. Letting your partner know that your schedule is a sign of consideration. To accept that this other person cares about you and worries that you will not be there when you say you will.
"Of course, I'm coming for pizza tonight!" Gone are the days when you say that. To work with colleagues without thinking about it. The first thing you need to do is call your partner and tell them that this is what you are planning and make sure they are in favor of it. Yeah, Al, that sounds pretty crap to me, looks like BT ain't for me either.
In the early days, considering your new spouse was the first and most important aspect of your marriage, which was even harder to adjust. Is your music too loud? Does your partner want to watch another channel? Do you sleep with all the blankets? Are you snoring? You do not check these things because you have benefits, or you do not usually complain about them as a partner, but you do them because you want your marriage to be shared by two equal partners. If you argue on any subject, find a common mediator. If two parties respect each other, there should not be a fight for dominance as long as two people agree that they are entitled to have different views. Do not avoid conflict, do not maximize your advantage, take care of each other and discuss the situation where you both agree.
During the first weeks and months of marriage, you will discover many new things and sometimes not as you expected, but if both parties consider the menu of their love, trust and respect, married life will begin soon Be settled 'and' you will get into the habit of doing things without anger or responsibility. You do them because you want to do them too...
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