One thing I notice in society today is that everyone has trouble with the truth. I do not mean that we lie all the time, but we are always afraid of hurting one's feelings or getting into some kind of confrontation with the person we are talking to or the person we are living with is a much better person. Sometimes we worry about someone's reaction, 'so' we tell the truth or try to figure out what the person wants to hear. This can really become a problem in personal relationships when couples are afraid to express their desires for fear of separation or divorce. People may have problems with work integrity when the supervisor is concerned about an employee’s response to a poor performance assessment; In education, the teacher is concerned about the reaction of the student or parent, and then can easily assign grades that do not correspond to student performance.
When I was in high school, my mentor called me into his office and got my grades. "What do you think will happen when you go to high school?" I said I didn’t know, and then in the breath felt like I had to say something other than the truth — I said I wanted to be a bartender, I wanted to be a lawyer. "A lawyer," he said, pointing to my grades. "It's not a lawyer's grade. If I were you, I would think of doing something else." I walked out of his office and at least didn’t bother. My guidance counselor told me I was not smart enough to be a lawyer and did not even want to go home and tell my dad. I did not say a single word to our father. Do you know, That guy really told me the truth, and the truth really set me free. I started to look at my abilities honestly 'and' I was able to admit that in my first three years of high school I did not work hard academically. I really started to think realistically about my future. My guidance counselor inspired me to look hard in the mirror and really need to know about my abilities and my attitude. He told me the truth, I admired him.
Well, in 1977, my dad sold the bar, and that same year I became a teacher. I really enjoyed the teaching. I am a special teacher. Many of my students have academic or behavioral problems. In fact, my students usually have the worst behavioral problems at school, and some days I was really able to get over it. But overall I have developed relationships with children and things always look great. As I progressed in my career, I noticed that conditions were changing. I was expected to have more and more behavioral problems and everyone was giving me some excuse to distract the child. The . catchphrase that was in vogue almost 20 years ago was that I really like this kid, but I don’t like his behavior. Is this true? I do not think so. Is it really possible to like someone and dislike their behavior? The truth is, we do not like the behavior of that person / her, we need to think about it and make people aware. A person is his behavior, and the two are inseparable. I can give you the names of people who are known to be completely deviant in society and tell me if you like them, but not their behavior. Also try Charles Manson, Scott Peterson, Jeffrey Delmer or Adolf ******. Can you like them as human beings even if you don’t like their behavior? No, we do not like his period. Our understanding of a person depends on his behavior. The truth is, if we don’t like the behavior, we probably may not like the person. If their behavior does not change, people need to know that other people do not like to develop meaningful relationships with them and ultimately do not like them.
Recently, a student came into my office (I work as a temporary principal) and started discussing with me what he wanted to do after finishing high school. The young man wanted to become a doctor, which was a lofty goal. Well, I asked him what he scored on his SAT. He said he scored nearly 400 runs in each division. I think in my mind that the perfect score in each section is 800 and the very best score is 650 to 700. I knew something at the time; He is not my doctor. I continued to find his grades and found that his math and science grades were C and D. I would definitely like to answer the same question my mentor asked me. Do these look like doctor grades? But, based on the norms of culture and society, I could not ask this question. I immediately pointed out to this student the admission requirements that colleges have for their pre-med program and ultimately for medical school. He discovered the truth on his own and came back to me and thanked me for helping me realize that his study skills needed to be improved and that he needed to get back on the college board. The truth is he knows about his weaknesses and how hard he has to work to achieve his goals.
The society seems to want to suppress the fact that their behavior is not right and to convince everyone that their behavior is not right. Society makes everyone believe that they are smarter than themselves and that their behavioral conditions are due to their environment or lack of treatment or medicine.
Facing the truth about my abilities and my work ethic kept me on the right track and helped me choose a better career and helped me understand how to improve my work ethic. After that, instead of being successful in life from one job to another, I worked hard...
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