What I have seen in society today is that everyone has a problem with the truth. I don't mean that we are always lying, but we are always afraid of hurting anyone's feelings or getting involved in any kind of conflict with the person we are talking to or talking to. The one we live with is better. Sometimes we worry about someone's reaction to us, so we twist the truth or try to figure out what that person wants to hear.
When couples are afraid to express their desires for fear of breaking up or getting divorced, they begin to grow really big in personal relationships. People may have problems with the truth at work, while supervisors may be concerned about the employee's reaction to poor performance appraisals. In teaching, the teacher may be concerned about the reaction of the student or parent, and may easily give grades that do not match the student's performance.
When I was in high school, my mentor counselor called me to his office and took my grades out. He said, "What do you want to do when you get through high school?" I told him I didn't know, and then with another breath, thinking I had to tell him something other than the truth - that I wanted to be a bartender, I told him I wanted to be a lawyer. "Lawyer," he said, pointing to my grade, "this is not a lawyer's grade. If I were you, I would start thinking of doing something else. "I walked out of his office, and was not in the least offended. Not smart enough. I never said a word to my dad, you know this guy really told me the truth, and now the truth set me free. She didn't work hard academically for the first three years. I had to think realistically about my future. Started. And my mentor forced me to look hard in the mirror and adapt to my abilities and my attitude. He told me the truth, and I admired him.Well, in 1977, my dad sold the bar, and I became a teacher that year. And I really enjoyed teaching. I was a special teacher. Many of my students had academic or behavioral problems. In fact, my students usually had the worst behavior problems at school and could really reach me in a few days.
But overall I developed relationships with the kids, and things seemed to always go pretty well. As I progressed in my career, I noticed that things were changing. I was expected to put up with more and more behavior problems, and everyone was giving me some excuse for a kid’s deviance. The catchphrase that seemed to be in vogue about 20 years ago was, I really like this kid, but I don’t like his behavior. Was this the truth? I don’t think so. Is it really possible to like someone and not like their behavior? The truth is, we don’t like the person because of his behavior, and people need to be made aware of this in a considerate way. A person is his behavior, and the two can’t be separated. I can give you the names of people who are well known in society for absolute deviance, and you tell me if you like them, but not their behavior. Let’s try Charles Manson, Scott Peterson, Jeffrey Damper, or even Adolph Hitler. Can anyone not like their behavior but, still like them as people? No, we don’t like them period. The perception we have of a person is based on his behavior. The truth is, if the behavior is not likable, we probably will dislike the person. People need to know that if their behavior doesn’t change, then others won’t want to develop meaningful relationships with them, and ultimately won’t like them.
Choose, a good vocation and helped me to understand how I needed to improve my work ethic. Subsequently, instead of floating through life unsuccessfully from one job to another, I worked hard in college, graduate school, and then as an employee. So the next time your kids come home and say that their teacher told them that they have to work harder, or their work is unacceptable, or that their behavior is unacceptable, or they better consider going to a county college rather than Dartmouth, thank that teacher for doing something that is a rarity today-speaking the truth.
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