What are the secrets to improving kids’ behaviour

Many parents are sometimes moved by the distraction or annoyance of their children, whether it be a crying baby, a schoolboy dropping out of bed or a teenager using less. Sweet vocabulary. How you can make a difference is a challenge for many parents. Do you ignore the child's annoying behavior or take it for granted? A sixth rule of thumb is to initiate behavior that is harmful to the child itself or that significantly violates the rights and welfare of others. And ask yourself. Does this behavior make sense to a child? For example, it is reasonable to expect that an eight-year-old child will not disturb you while you are on the phone for 20 minutes,  but it is unreasonable to expect the same from a two-year-old. It is also helpful to consider the child's current attitude and what is going on in his life that may be related to the unusual behavior that takes place in the home. The following four guiding principles will work if you are both patient and persistent. Principle 1: Change your first response first. This is important because child behavior often needs to be paid for, which may be your attention or an effort to overcome it. The most important principle about changing children’s behavior is changing your behavior first. So if your child cries (baby version of torture in the water) to make his or her own way, stop responding or acknowledging. Principle 2: Train your child to behave in a certain way. The concept of self-discipline is essential in learning a new way of behaving. Don't just tell the kids what to expect, teach them the behavior you want. In the case of a small whiner - make it a habit to ask for help or treatment with a normal voice. Principle 3: Limit unwanted behavior. That means when children continue with their old habits despite your best suggestions to ignore them, stop or use the result but do not delay or talk about it. Remember that it takes a lot of time to change behavior, especially if it has already happened. Principle 4: Emphasize appropriate behavior. When your children behave the way you want them to, show your genuine appreciation. We often take children lightly or rather we are trained to ignore children when they are good, but there are many when they are imperfect. The behaviors we focus on are growing, so we need to pay more attention to desirable behaviors than to bad behaviors. For our young whiner, it is important to make a noise when he uses a common voice to get what he wants. As with any procedure, it will only work if you stick to it and follow it. And do not be afraid to adjust to your circumstances. Remember, the fact that you have a plan is a very powerful program in achieving a change in your children's, behavior. For practical suggestions on how to deal with children's annoying behaviors such as crying, persistence, anger, and sibling conflict, read Michael G rose's most important book - One Step Ahead. Michael G rose is Australia's leading parenting educator. He is the author of six books and produces more than 100 presentations a year and appears regularly on television, radio and in print. Subscribe to the Happy Kids newsletter and receive a free report, Seven Ways to Win a Brotherhood.