What Are NOT High-Value Traits
- 1. Has a Good Career
- 2. Has Vast Knowledge
- 3. Comes From a Good Family
- 4. Is Smart
1. Has a Good Career
Historically, men have monopolized the direct control of resources. These days more and more women have direct access to resources.
Direct access to resources in our society means
While all these attributes are very helpful for a man to be a high quality man, they are much less crucial for women.
A woman these days has indeed the luxury of choosing between two roads to high quality:
Control resources herself Secure (or control) a man who controls resources
An example of the first category would be Amal Clooney, a woman who also manages to keep her femininity.
An example of the latter is any woman who marries a top man and then… Stays out of the limelight herself.
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Melania Trump doesn’t need to fend for herself: she trades her personal value to let someone do it for her
When Career Women Are Not High Value
Career women pay lip service to the idea that fending for herself is not “better” than being a stay at home woman. But deep down they sometimes think they do are higher quality.
However, when they fall for that line of thinking is exactly when they show a major sign of low quality: resentment.
They resent women in more traditional roles because they fear those women will make them look masculine by comparison.
When Career Women Are High Value
However, women who can directly control resources themselves AND stay feminine at the same time, that’s a major feat there.
Example
She’s possibly a bit too strong and rough around the hedges, but is an interesting mix of go-getter attitude and femininity:
2. Has Vast Knowledge
Being well-learned, cultured or being “worldly” is important if and only she is supposed to entertain disparate guests for parties. Or if she is part of very intellectual circles.
Otherwise, it’s a good to have but its absence doesn’t turn a high-value woman into a low-quality one.
Example
Same for her body, a high-quality woman will not flaunt her superior knowledge.
Showing off is a masculine trait -and often associated with insecurity.
The woman in this example is seemingly high quality, but she’s otherwise being rather masculine and rude:
3. Comes From a Good Family
We all have a natural tendency to look at the family of origin and draw conclusions.
And don’t get me wrong, this is not the kind of website to tell you “don’t generalize” and “don’t jump to conclusions”.
Don’t do that indeed… When you have the means to dig deeper.
But when you don’t, in the face of limited information, a badly educated guess is better than not guessing at all.
That being said, here’s why poor backgrounds are not a sign of personal quality:
Some people overcome it
And when a woman can overcome a bad household of origin, then it becomes an even bigger badge of quality for her.
Sometimes people swing in the opposite direction
While most tend to follow in the footsteps of their family, some swing in the opposite direction.
So for example a woman in a poor household might swear to herself she’ll never be poor again. Or a woman who witnessed a cheating mother wreck her family will swear she’ll never cheat and never accept cheating.
4. Is Smart
Intelligence is sometimes overrated.
Some researchers, like Goleman and Bradberry, say that emotional intelligence is vastly more important than IQ.
And when it comes to success, grit probably also matters much more than IQ.
That’s not to say you must disregard intelligence.
What I mean is that, from a male perspective, all you need is a level of intelligence that is above a minimum threshold not too far away from yours.
I usually define it in terms of what you can laugh about.
If she can get your jokes and innuendos and you can laugh together about them, then you’re golden.
SUMMARY
In one sentence:
High-value women are feminine women who take care of themselves, as well as caring and taking care of the people around them, including their partners.
There is a lot of overlap between high-quality men and high-quality women, but also some major differences.
This article provides you with an overview of the traits of high-value women.
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