Anyone who has ever heard of the Internet, whether they have used Internet dating sites or not, is well aware of some of the dangers that dating on the World Wide Web can present. The fact is, if your online dating can actually be a more rewarding experience than dating in the "real world", and you may even be more insulated from a negative experience online, that you would be in a face-to-face situation. The internet offers several screening experiences that are simply not possible with in-person dating, and using these opportunities to your advantage can lead to extremely successful online dating.
To stay safe on online dating, approach any future date with caution. I recommend a step-by-step elevation procedure. Start your search by using the nickname that others will call you when they want to contact you. Moving on to first names isn't a huge step, but giving away your last name definitely is - don't do it until you've spent a fair amount of time with the other person and have a feel for what kind of person they are. Set up a separate email account for communicating with potential dates, and never share any personal information when first communicating. If you feel like the other person is pressuring you for this information, be prepared to stop communicating (if you're already being pressured, chances are you'll face more pressure if you pursue a relationship anyway).
Pay close attention to what the other person is saying, and be sure to register any comments they make that are suspicious or contradictory as you speak. Don't rush into anything - you don't have to meet until you both feel comfortable. While chatting, you'll both need to establish a direct and direct relationship with each other to create the trust necessary to meet in person (this is one of the unique aspects of online dating - the foundation of trust is already there before you've even met, so if everything seems to be working, you are several steps ahead of what you would have been if you had met in the flesh to begin with).
Some hard evidence is always good to establish some trust and deepen the relationship. Ask for a photo and be prepared to pay. It can be daunting to send that photo, but if the goal is to meet eventually, sooner or later you'll see each other anyway.
Finally, when it's time to meet, make sure it's in a prominent place with lots of other people around. Don't be too private on a first date - dinner at a restaurant, a movie at the cinema - something with lots of other people when you really get to know the person.
Online dating is becoming more and more popular and can be a great way to find and build a great relationship. The mantra “there are a lot of weirdos out there” is certainly true, but the simple fact is that it is true in “real” life as well. Taking extra care when dating online will ensure you have a safe experience, although, just like in real life, it may not always bear fruit.
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