Looking for more tips to reignite the passion in your married s e x life? Here are some that might help you:
Consider the quality vs. quantity s e x
Intercourse satisfaction in marriage comes from the quality and frequency at which the couples are having s e x .
One thing to consider is the quality vs. quantity of s e x you and your spouse have.
This understanding will help you overcome the challenges related to marriage and s e x , as now, just increasing the quantity will not be the focal point of your Intercorse life.
Remember to measure the health of your married s e x life by quality, not quantity. Here’s what quality of s e x includes:
Discussing Intercourse positions that would bring gratification to both the partners
- Talking about your intercourse needs
- Engaging in oral s e x
- Stimulation of genitals
- Kissing and caressing
- Experimenting with factoring in your partner’s preferences
- Scheduling s e x can save your marriage
- If both of you love s e x when you have it, then great!
Many researchers suggest scheduling it in. It seems robotic, but once you get started, it’s anything but robotic and becomes instrumental in boosting satisfaction in married s e x life.
Scheduling s e x means it becomes a higher priority.
Scheduling s e x is not unheard of. Newlywed couples often plan their s e x before actually indulging in the act. Megan Fleming, Ph.D., and a New York City-based s e x and relationship therapist encourage couples to schedule their intimate moments together.
However, the only problem with scheduling s e x , as stated by Fleming, is “you don’t know how you’ll both feel at that time, and we can’t command ourselves to feel aroused,” but you can “create conditions that make s e x more likely to happen.”
2. Stop negative feelings in a marriage
If your quality of s e x is low, that could be why the quantity is low as well. In a marriage, s e x is the tie that binds.
If you experience a dip in your Intercourse desire, analyze whether that is due to negative feelings about your marriage, spouse, or yourself.
A negative perspective on marriage can spell a death knell for married s e x life.
Practicing positive affirmations about your partner, stopping unfair comparisons, releasing negative emotions by communicating openly and self-belief can help you stay positive in your marriage.
Whatever you discover about marriage, make sure you spend time doing something constructive about it, so you can enjoy the relationship benefits of having s e x more often.
3. Look and feel attractive at home
There is no rule book on when and where to feel s e x , and you don’t need to be particularly good-looking, either. However, it is common to slip into a comfort zone in marriage and stop feeling or making an effort to look and feel s e x .
Loosen your hinges and slip into your inner s e x iness by first focusing on what you like best about yourself. Channelize your energy into all the positive and favorite bits about yourself.
Practice self-love and self-care every day.
Get yourself a new haircut, overhaul your wardrobe, buy new make-up—do anything to kick start the routine, and get that extra dose of confidence. Change things up a bit and get noticed by your partner,
4. Preserve the mystery
As much as it sounds counter-intuitive, don’t reveal everything about yourself to your partner.
Surprise them by revealing your different facets, gradually. Similarly, you don’t need to know everything going on in your partner’s mind. Allow yourself to be surprised, wooed by different shades of their personality, fantasies, and desires.
5. Bring s e x y back into your relationship
To shake up the things between the sheets, resume dating.
The anticipation of a date will trigger excitement between the two of you. While on a date, engage in kissing. Kissing is a great way to show that you desire your partner.
Caressing your partner’s cheeks and back or holding their hands while kissing can heat things for the two of you!
Nurture each other’s Intercourse sides by engaging in intimate conversations, where you learn about your partner’s love languages.
6. Stop playing the no-s e x blame game with your spouse
Stop the blame game and take accountability for making things better. Also, remember that a good marriage therapist can also help you figure out how to improve things on all accounts, including thriving married s e x life.
7. How married s e x and satisfaction are related
It might be hard for you to know exactly how often should a married couple make love but, it is a no-brainer that emotional connection can make your married Intercourse life more satisfactory.
In fact, a survey conducted by the famous condom company Durex in 2013 found that 96% of people agreed that the better the emotional connection, the better the Intercourse experience.
92% of people stated that they get turned on when their partner is vulnerable, and 90% believed that chances of better s e x are higher if they have been together for a more extended period with their partner.
s e x is directly related to the emotional connection and respect in the relationship. A good relationship with no stress can boost your s e x life and positively affect your married life.
Conclusion
Many statistics on married s e x life out there seem to tell us what is a “normal” amount of s e x for married couples or educate us on an average number of times per week married couples make love.
In all reality, there is no set definition of normal. However, keep in mind that marriage and s e x are not mutually exclusive to relationship bliss.
Each couple is different, so it’s up to you to determine what is normal for you!
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