Even good lovers can sometimes fall into bad habits. These six habits indicate that you are missing out, but you may be **** at this point. Changing these can make your s *** life humming again.
1, you do not like to refer to your boyfriend
It is important to tell your boyfriend what you like or want to have sex with. But people often don’t care about the “elephant room” - an unspeakable problem, priority, or reluctance. And if you avoid it, the effect will be ******. Why do lovers honestly stay away? "They are worried that the other person will start crying or being weird or critical," the MD said. He is a psychiatrist at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, which specializes in *** treatment.
The Fix: "Be open to your boyfriend's suggestions," she said. Listen and respect their opinions instead of getting mad or upset. As sexuality develops over time, Castellanos recommends checking once every 6 months. Ask yourself: Are we happy with our *** lives? What should we add to this? Is there anything big we can talk about?
2, you are a distracted lover
You're not skipping sheets to check your smartphone, right? Goods *** sign should be complete at the moment - mind and body. "It's important to set a non-obstructive scene," said Pepper Schwartz, a Ph.D. professor of sociology at the University of Washington. The Fix: "Do not turn on your phone. Do not check your email. Do not send texts. Do not be a mother who does not lock the door," Schwarz said. If your mind wanders, ignore how you are touching or focus on your breathing.
3, you do not give and do not take
Is your ****** your only goal? Do you like to receive **** *** but are not willing to give? (Or vice versa?) It's one thing if you and your partner do not need to be the same in bed. “Not everyone likes **** ***, for example,” Castellanos said. "But if you do not do something because you can not be bothered or because you are selfish, it's more problematic." The Fix: Better to give and receive. “***** Happiness needs to be given unselfishly without selfishness,” she says.
4, you prefer the automatic pilot
Prepare, set: kiss, touch here, ****** get in position ... If your boyfriend can predict your every move, the two of you will disappear. "The couple will quickly fall into the script. It works," says Ian Kerner, certified sex counselor and author. "Comfort ***," as he says, is great. But too much static menu leads to boredom, which makes it harder to get excited.
The Fix: Refresh your *** menu. Your brain loves new things. "You may eventually get your normal script, but for the first third of the s *** play, start with the more exciting ones," Kerner said. He suggests *** toys, role-playing, ***** talking to each other, or trying new positions.
5, Do not let your boyfriend guide you
If you are completely calm and quiet, your partner may not understand what you like or whether they are on the right path. “To be a good lover, you have to be a good interlocutor,” Kerner says. The Fix: Use your words, voices, and movements to find out what your partner wants, more or less. Make yourself cry or sigh. Let your hips move.
6, Your good ideas are based on ******
Worried that your ******* is not "beautiful" enough? Or is your ***** big enough? Or is it "real" ****** if your partner doesn't cry out loud? More and more, s *** therapists ask people, "What happened to me?" Based on what they see in magazines or videos. "Most people say their relationships or their physical reactions or their bodies are not normal," Castellanos said. But they are. They think they are normal but not because they are comparable to it. "That anxiety makes it harder to worry and enjoy ***. It puts unnecessary stress on both of you. Fix: **** can put you in a state of mind or teach you new techniques, *** experts say. Define what happens in bed. Explore your partner. Learn about their body, breathing, and muscle tension. See how much more relaxed you are. If you work with each other,
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