Lesson 5 : people are wired 

You don’t have all the facts to make any assumptions, judgements, or conclusions. By saying people are weird,

You allow the experience to not affect your ego. Let it go, man, people are weird;

You don’t have to understand them, nor blame anyone. The truth is, you don’t have the slightest idea what’s going on in their lives, what kind of  person they are, what their motivations are behind forming relationships. You don’t know anything about them. You tried, and that’s great. Always remember: your job is not to understand people, but to understand and take care of yourself.

 Lesson 4 : knowing yourself is a superpower

In your answers to what wants of yours came under ‘value’ and ‘interest’, there might have been confusion in your mind regarding their placement.

You’re not supposed to get it right away. It takes time. But at least the process of thinking has begun, which is much better than being a blind follower. Thinking gets you closer to knowing, which is a superpower.

Knowing yourself is single-handedly the greatest superpower any person can have. So, try to know thyself as much as you can.

# Whatever your wants are, let’s divide them into two categories: the first would be wants that contribute to long-term results; the second would be wants that bring you momentary happiness. Let’s call the first category ‘value’, because they bring value to your life, and let’s call the second ‘interest’, because they deal with your actual interests in life.

 Lesson 3: You are a nation 

* You are a nation, not just a person.

* Other people are other nations.

The foreign policy should be never to give anyone else the authority of your nation. Whether it is desires or people; whether it is for love, approval and self-worth or pleasures; your self should be the authority.

In This perspective, give yourself  respect and satisfaction and dire act your own way.

 Lesson 2 : nobody's perfect rule, by comparing yourself to others.

# You have no real data on where they come from, what their real-life situation is, what their opportunities were, and how they have managed to make it so far—all of these could easily be far better than you or far worse.

# Before dragging yourself down or someone else down, always remind yourself they haven’t lived a day in your shoes, and you haven’t in theirs. This is happening only because you are triggered from knowing they are better than you in some particular aspect. And it f*** with you because your self-worth comes from the approval of others—that’s the source of your problem, not this person.

 Lesson 1 : learning how to think 🤔 

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO THINK DIFFERENTLY

In plain terms, the two stages of thinking differently are:

* Not knowing or cluelessness

* Wanting to know

This would have remained this simple if we had not brought ‘what to think’ into our minds and lives. This is what the stages look like now:

Not knowing

* Learning ‘what to think’

* Abandoning ‘what to think’

* Wanting to know

Abandoning ‘what to think’ is the hardest thing. Not just because you have been trained. No, sir, it’s because you have become a follower of narratives and ideologies. You see the world a certain way, and abandoning what to think would require abandoning that too. I know; your feelings are involved; there is a sense of community; you are following so many groups and pages; you have made friends; you may even think it is your identity now. It can be hard.

Final word,

# Most of all, ‘how to think’ means allowing the data to make you think; not your preconceived notions dictating to you how to feel about data. You learn only when you are open to learning. To develop how to think, you would have to focus on the contents of the problem with absolute disregard for your personal judgements, biases and prejudices. Only then can a new pattern and a new understanding take birth.

# How to think differently is an ability that has to be personally developed by you with your own thinking. You’re going to come up with your own patterns. This doesn’t mean they wouldn’t have existed before; it would mean that the patterns you have come up with would serve you the most and the best.