The female orgasm: What do women want? Part -1

Societal norms and the media both heavily influence how we view women’s orgasms, but research shows that their Intercourse activity preferences and experiences with orgasm vary widely.    

Research shows that Intercourse self-esteem and good communication are important factors in women’s Intercourse satisfaction.

The female orgasm is often depicted as the center of a woman’s Intercourse satisfaction and the ultimate goal of s e x . But many women don’t experience an orgasm during Intercourse  intercourse until their 20s or even 30s, and the number of women who say that they always or nearly always have one during s e x is declining.      

The social expectations surrounding women’s orgasms can be particularly distressing to women who don’t always experience them. And when depictions of s e x in the media are thrown into the mix, the gap between expectation and reality widens even further.     

Léa J. Séguin – from the Department of S e x o l  o g y  at Université du Québec à Montréal in Canada – examinedTrusted Source how female orgasms are represented in mainstream adult graphy.    

In 50 popular video clips included in the study, only 18.3 percent of women were shown to reach orgasm, and stimulation of the clitoris or vulva only featured in 25 percent of these.  

In a recent surveyTrusted Source, 53 percent of men and 25 percent of women in the United States said they had watched  adult graphy in the past year.    

How the female orgasm is depicted in adult ography does not tally up with research findings, with Séguin writing that “mainstream adult ography promotes and perpetuates many unrealistic expectations regarding women’s orgasm.    

Putting the stigma of social expectations and the fantasy world of adult ography aside, what does scientific research tell us about women’s orgasms? How much of a role does the clitoris play, and, most importantly, what do women want when it comes to achieving Intercourse  satisfaction?    

The female orgasm in research     

A studyTrusted Source by Prof. Osmo Kontula – from the Population Research Institute at the Family Federation of Finland in Helsinki – asked more than 8,000 women in Finland about their Intercourse experiences.    

Most of the women under the age of 35 who participated in the study had experienced their first orgasm through masturbation. For around a quarter of these, this happened before the age of 13, and for a tenth, before the age of 10.    

But the average age at first Intercourse intercourse was 17. Most women did not experience an orgasm at this time – in fact, only one quarter of survey participants had reached an orgasm during intercourse within the first year that they started having partnered s e x .    

For the remainder it took much longer, and having s e x still does not guarantee orgasm for everyone.   

Prof. Kontula found that in 2015, only 6 percent of women said that they always had an orgasm during penile- hymeny aginal intercourse, 40 percent said they had an orgasm nearly always, 16 percent of women had an orgasm half the time, and 38 percent had one infrequently. A total of 14 percent of women under the age of 35 had never had an orgasm from intercourse.    

Since 1999, the number of women experiencing orgasm during intercourse always or nearly always has fallen from 56 percent to 46 percent.    

So, to shed light on what contributes to women’s ability to reach orgasm and what detracts from it, Prof. Kontula dug deeper.    

The recipe for orgasm   

According to Prof. Kontula, “The keys to achieving more frequent female orgasms were identified in this study as being in the mind and in the relationship.    

“These factors and capacities,” he expains, “included how important orgasms were considered personally; how high was Intercourse desire; how high was Intercourse self-esteem; and how open was Intercourse communication with the partner.   

“Intercourse self-esteem included how Intercourse skillful and how good in bed women considered themselves. Other positive factors of orgasmic capacity were the ability to concentrate on the moment; mutual Intercourse initiations; and a partner’s good Intercourse techniques.

Interestingly, while over 50 percent of women in relationships said that they usually experience orgasm during Intercourse intercourse, this number stood at 40 percent for single women.    

Prof. Kontula goes on to highlight the importance of diversity among women’s Intercourse experiences and preferences. “The findings of this study,” he writes, “indicate that women differ greatly from one another in terms of their tendency and capacity to experience orgasms.   

The most frequently cited reasons that prevented the participants from achieving orgasm were “fatigue and stress” and “difficulty concentrating.” Prof. Kontula also postulates that women increasingly rationalize s e x , as a result of social expectations and media depictions.    

“Excessive rationalism is the biggest enemy of orgasms. Simply put, thinking does alight desire, but orgasms come when thinking ceases.        

To Be Continue in Part-2 . . . .

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