I was on the phone with technical support this week, and I kept thinking about all the things I might have done instead of waiting and not living my life.
Are you still trying to hold on to your life?
Do you anticipate your partner arriving, or does he or she perform better for you? Are you looking for design ideas for your home? Are you hoping that a good job will come your way? Are you planning your retirement while hoping to win the lottery?
What a long time you've been waiting! The only difference between you and those who achieve their goals is that they continue, whereas you did not. Here are some suggestions to get you started.
Instead of concentrating on what, concentrate on whom.
If you're having trouble achieving a goal, try repeating "who I am" instead of "what I want." Instead of stating, "I want to lose 30 pounds," say, "I want to lose 30 pounds." Make your statement as specific as possible. It's important to note that "helper" can refer to anyone from a store clerk to a heart surgeon. Concentrate on becoming who you want to be. Then consider which acts are most appropriate for your desire to "become" rather than "find."
Examine it.
Did you realize that 20 percent of your life causes 80 percent of your problems? True! Find out what the 20% of your life is that has the biggest impact, and work to make it happier, more productive, and more gratifying.
Value is assigned.
The most common error I notice among my training clients is failing to provide actual value for their time, energy, money, and the "real place" (location) of their home or business. 'No, to the movie,' and 'No, to the other person,' she says in each case. Always ask yourself, "Is this * valuable * to me enough that I'm squeezing my life, or even removing anything from my closet, my routine, or my money?"
Make a schedule.
I know you have a "pizza night," but why don't you switch back to "credit night" or "clean your room night?" Processes occur in all aspect of your life, just like pizza night. Traditional methods are liberating, despite their appearance of being boring and limiting. In the same way that you should not stress about dinner on pizza night, instead of fretting on Monday morning about whether you remembered to pay for auto insurance, you will feel at ease knowing that you will go to the bank every Friday afternoon and pay your bills every Wednesday evening. Trails relieve stress.
Accept your power of command.
We've all heard about political physicians' denials. In your daily life, I'd want to introduce the concept of 'control.' You may not be able to influence global politics, but you can vote. Terrorism is beyond your control, but you can prepare for it at home. You have no influence over highway construction workers, but you do have control over how much time you spend driving. Knowing what you can control and how to use it, as well as letting go of what you can't, puts you in control of your life.
When you stop waiting and start living the life you truly desire, you will feel good about yourself. As you make decisions rather than being pushed, your stress and dissatisfaction will decrease. Self-improvement will be easier and simpler as you gain a greater feeling of self-acceptance.
What are you waiting for? Begin immediately!
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