Have you ever had someone in your life who was actually successful by playing a game of blame? Do you know those who experience abdominal pain that it is your fault? Then you really believe them, so you play a game to fix all their problems! Become a redeemer? I'm done! I didn't notice it at the time because that was the life lesson I was working on teaching it well and the boy played a good game together! We danced together to recognize the victims and created disaster after disaster for ten years! He created, I redeemed! He created, I redeemed! Then one day he found himself in another situation (and this was all my fault!) I was very sick and tired of continuing to put all my efforts into fixing his problems which I threw in the towel. I quit. The day the lamp came! I realized that I was not allowing her to take responsibility for her life. I was doing him a terrible service. I was not giving her the strength! I was taking away his strength by fixing all his problems, not to mention losing his power! That was the day I was happy, and I meant to be happy, I gave her back her life with a gold plaque! Ahh peace again!
Suspicious are people who refuse to take responsibility for their own lives. When things go wrong in their lives they often blame other people. Even if something goes wrong at home, at work or at school they try to find someone they can blame. I’ve found that they tend to blame those they love the most. Why? Because these would be the first people to ‘fix’ their problems and be their rescuers. Suspects do not usually admit their problems. Often the statements you will hear from them say "It was not my fault." "How could I know?" "It's your fault." etc. Their conversation often goes like this. "If you hadn't done something different, I wouldn't be in this situation. It's your fault."
By blaming other people for the problems in their lives, they have no power to change anything. Their thoughts keep them from knowing the victims. They believe and hold their thoughts:
I recently returned from Colorado where I spent a whole week relaxing, rejuvenating and reevaluating the values that are so important in my life. The place where I lived is called the Valley of Peace, and it has a church building on the property. I have been to the Valley of Peace again this week many times over the years. The church is at the end of a ten-minute trek, which has become a tradition for me. The top view - part of the Rocky Mountain list - is amazing.
On the way down one day I was in a hurry and was walking very fast in the area. I almost fell. There were a lot of rocks, and it was easy to hit the moving and slippery.
I slowed down, took a deep breath, and deliberately put my foot down on the next rock, and then the next. I quickly got up to speed and had to slow down again.
I decided that even if I got late, I would set each one a step in the right direction. It really took me a while to do this. But it was a wonderful experience to concentrate and meditate. One rock at a time - that’s all I chose to think about. And all of a sudden I noticed more and more of everything - the sound of the wind, the sound of birds and squirrels, and the morning light on the golden mountains.
I thought: I could do this many times. Be here now. He feels the touch of my foot on the rock. Feel the steering wheel as I drive. BE at the bus stop, instead of minutes or hours ahead of your destination. He hears birds outside my office window.
I start to think that doing too much is too much. The really difficult thing is to be fully present in one place at a time.
How much do you know about this time? Does life seem too good to be true? Take a moment now and breathe. Count to 5 when you breathe, then count to 5 again when you exhale. Take your time. It is now that he is alive, not yesterday and not tomorrow. Now.
“Centering is the art of living a full life. And wherever centering is done, things change dramatically. ”
- Tom Crum, "A trip to the center"
I wish you all the best!
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