When we talk about long term relationships , its not always marriage. But doesnot mean it marriage is not a part of this issue. Every relationship have its own tatse . I personally believe, long term relationship have a unforgetful flavour from the beginning. As we are attracted towards someone, we are not only attracted to the physical appearance or the personality. We are attracted to the needs we lack from the people around us, the needs that we cannot fullfil on our own or the needs we want to be accomplished by them for us. A person looks for a partner for its physical and phychological needs, apart that life brings us to a lot of ups and downs, flaws and brilliance and we want someone to be there not only in the worst but to share our happiness in the best.
With time two persons grow strong roots. As time passes we start to hope that our partner will understand us even if we do not speak. We grow a misconception that whatever we have imagined to be in a relationship will come true once we have someone in life that worthy. We hope our partner to agree on our thoughts without a proper explaination. Thats where the beat missed. 
For once we might be too interested in showing love and priotising our partner only , but that cannot be continued the whole life. Apart from making love, showing priority, there comes responsibilty and pressure. Pressure of job, pressure of marks, grades, ranks, pressure of kids, and most importantly "capital". And we feel that our partner is failing to give attention to us, they might cheat us or they have vanished feelings for us. Well this is normal , we have trained ourselves to the comfort level and now this change will be hard. That doesnot mean your partner is unfaithful or he/she is giving less attention to you
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Life starts to act out of control, we bare a lot of unwanted situations, some together and some all alone. It gets hard when we think it is.
Take it easy, breath, hold on and believe in yourself. Talk to your partner, share , discuss, ask and make them speak up . Try to understand them , just because a relationship is long doesnt mean it will last forever. But its not the reason to loose hope and end up breaking it. 
They best way to freshen up your relation is by starting over as lovers again, but loving them as you did in the beginning, by respecting them and by understanding them, by giving them a hug when you leave them even for a while to work, kiss them goodnight make them fall for you, show efforts and lastly choose your love over ego. press the restart button and wait for the change.
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