Attitude is everything. Mental attitude, no matter what the end goal is, either helps you get there or impedes your progress, and one of the most damaging attitudes anyone can adopt is victim-mentality.
What is victim-mentality?
Victim mentality is a negative mindset. It just makes you to escape from reality and put blame on others. It is the proverbial "point the finger out" scenario.
Those engaged in victim-mentality, view life through a narrow lens of pessimistic perceptions, believing whatever occurs in life is the result of outside causes. Inner reflection is left voided. Nothing is their fault - ever!
While, no one is born with victim mentality, no one is exempt from playing the victim role either.
Do you perceive yourself as a survivor or a victim?
Survivors embrace life and flow with it. They live in the time and are awake with responsibility for their deeds and actions. They are enlightened and are empowered to change their lives.
Victims, on the other hand, wallow in self-pity and argue with and push back at life. They live stagnantly without moving forward in life, because their perceptions tell them they are powerless.
The cost of victim mentality is destructive. It negatively affects every phase of life. Those who see themselves as a failure, are dwelling in victimhood because failure only comes to those who give up.
In fact, every person alive has played the victim role more than once in their lives.
Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst and sadly, for those dwelling in victimhood, this self-sabotaging behavior becomes more powerful when things seem to be going their way as they are sure "disaster is waiting around the next corner."
To shift out of victim mentality, we must first own it.
And, we must embrace gratitude - the greatest of attitudes. Keep yourself focused and positive to let out the victim mentality.
To keep yourself moving on the fast track to feel healthy physically, mentally and emotionally, there are ways like engaging yourself in challenging exercises to make the happy hormones rush through the blood inside you.
Daily, we need to take time to reflect on all the things that make us happy, on all the things that are going well in our life.
At last, it's the small things that make up life beautiful.
In the end, we must honor ourselves with the same degree of respect and love that we try to give others. Only then will our minds and actions shift out of victimhood to survival mode.
We can't conquer or control what isn't for us. Believe that change starts with you, this is as important as aiming for a better version of yourself. Embracing every small things of life makes you to complain less... they may look very small or insignificant but remember everything counts.
Most importantly, we must continually empower ourselves with "I can" and "I will" statements and put a stop to degrading "I can't" or "I won't" statements and beliefs.
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
-Gautama Buddha
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