Training of Children.
The main reason for the increasing trend of suicide in our society is that parents do not tell their children the right and direct direction. Don't think of your children as perfect, they can make mistakes too. How to rectify the mistake, we have to explain this to our children. Whatever work children start, we as parents have to explain to them how to finish this work. There are some basic points of Positive Parenting in the training of children, which are very important for us parents to follow.
1- Parents should be good role models.
There is a famous saying in English. Actions speak louder than words.
This means that what we do is more visible and has an effect. Our children observe everything we do and memorize it in their memory, subconsciously having the same style of speech as they see us.
If we want our children to become prayerful, then we have to commit ourselves to prayer. Take care of your spiritual and physical health. The events of the Companions teach us that she not only took care of domestic duties but, also took care of business and other matters.
2- Show consistency.
If the parents have decided to say no to something, then stick to it but, do not be too strict that you do not agree to anything. Living in a joint family, consult your elder members before taking any decision, and then include the children. Because if something is forbidden by the mother and the child takes it from the grandmother, then this is the cause of spoiling the child.
3- Be gentle.
Be calm & be brief.
Please do not stop the children from speaking but, give them a chance by asking more questions. If a child says something, then listen to it as an adult, not as a child, because in this way he will never grow up.
4- Hurry up to ban.
Be quick in the discipline.
Parents usually ignore the mistakes of children in other's houses and take the news later. While they should be stopped at the same time and should be explained that do not hang from the curtain, do not move the table, etc. Don't take unnecessary items from any shop in the market.
Tell children about making and choosing friends from the beginning so that they adopt good and good company. Do not encourage or cover up hidden friendships of children. Do not disrespect your children in front of others or do evil so that their personality is not distorted.
5- Teach strong judgment.
Train them to decide.
By giving children the power to make decisions, confidence will increase in them, and their ability to make decisions will develop in them. Like teaching small children to choose one of their favorite shirts or one color out of two or three colors, etc.
6- Have realistic expectations.
Don't expect children to obey everything we say or follow our will. Talk to your children according to their level, or mental level, or make them work. For example, if a small child is given a glass, he will break it. Give him water in a plastic glass so that even if he throws it, there is no harm.
7- Appreciate their good work.
Appreciate them.
To encourage children, express their appreciation by patting on the shoulder or clapping hands, saying congratulations, etc. They will feel good about themselves, and it will bring out the goodness inside. Do not criticize children unnecessarily, and approach them according to their mental level.
8- Make the child feel that you love him.
Express your love.
Express love to children not only verbally, but also make them feel the love with your touch, such as hugging, kissing the head, stroking their hair with love, etc.
9- Pray.
Pray for them.
Pray for their guidance and goodness while sitting up. At the same time, try not to stop praying and pray for your children frequently.
10- Strengthen the faith in Monotheism.
Teach them Monotheism.
Strengthen your children's relationship with Allah. Connect them to the Lord. Teach the limits of Allah. Learn to ask Allah. Teach the method to pray, so that they turn to Allah in any difficulty.
11- Strengthen the belief in the hereafter.
Strengthen their belief in Resurrection.
Explain to your children that if something or something happens against their will, then in return for patience, the best reward will be given in the hereafter. Instead of being sad about the temporary failure of this world, give hope and assurance of the eternal happiness of the hereafter.
1️2- Keep track of children's friends.
Be aware of their company.
Be aware of your children's friends. Meet them or their parents and try to get them to come to your house to meet your children.
1️3-Children's parents should have a strong relationship.
Parents should have a strong bond between them. Keep the relationship strong for the sake of the children.
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