You are getting attracted. You think about him/her. You want to be with your object of love. You are showing all the signs of being in love. But is it love? Or is it infatuation that will go away after some time?
Let us examine this in a little more detail. What is the difference between love and infatuation? The first difference is that infatuation is short-lived. It disappears soon.
How will you test it? Think about all the qualities that are making you fall in this love.
Now think of another person. Imagine that the new candidate has all the qualities in greater measure. Think deeply and imagine as much as you can. Are you still in love, or you are shifting your allegiance to the new candidate?
Take another scenario. Imagine having a bad fight with your lover. Imagine of him/her calling you different names and arguing furiously with you. Are you still in love? Will you go back next day to them? Or you already hate them?
This test. After many years, your beloved is losing physical charm. Pick up photographs of some movie stars when they were young and compare with the way they look now. Do something similar with your lover. Are you still in love? Will you love them after so many years, when they would have lost most of their physical charm?
Love is a feeling that lasts despite years. Love can take fights in its stride. Love cannot be easily defined, but in love you care for your beloved more than yourself. You become very selfless with your true sweetheart. Do you have that feeling? If yes, it is love. Otherwise, you need to think more.
When two people are in a relationship, they need to share a certain level of compatibility that extends beyond the bedroom. Besides getting along as lovers, they need to be friends, in order to share each other’s joy and sorrow and be on the same wavelength, mentally and emotionally. Friends, who are close to each other, tend to have that kind of emotional and mental connection, which is why the friendship is shared in the first place. Imagine if you could find that kind of compatibility in a lover as well! Read on for tips how to turn a friend into a lover:
Remind them of what they like
If you have a male friend, who have hinted in the past about what he likes in you – certain physical or emotional characteristics that you possess – learn to highlight those features. Just don’t go overboard.
Remember, that when you were friends, how you looked or felt didn’t matter because he would love you nonetheless. But, when it comes to love, you need to present yourself in a way that will make him notice.
Change the talk
When people are friends they tend to talk about everything under the sun, from common interests or each other’s love interests! If you want this person to relate to you on a more intimate level as well. You could try flirting verbally.
Create the ambience
Instead of going with him to a usual hangout like a movie or a coffee shop, you could change the venue to a more private and romantic setting.
Change your attitude
If this person is already your friend, he will know how you behave around someone you have more than Platonic feelings for. The next time you meet him, start behaving with them the way you would around someone you like.
Body language,
This, is one of the most powerful tools to hint to people how you feel. The body language, that two friends share, is very different. All you have to do is change the way you touch your friend and if he has half a brain, he’ll get the hint.
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