In our daily life we all need friend to have fun, to explore new things , someone we can spend our quality time with. When we go to nursery as a kid we meet other kids, we make new friends. When we go to school, College, University and then our professional life. We play with them and as the time passes we get to learn about them as we grown up we realize which one of our friend are real or which friends stay with us just for their own benefit.
Here are few things to notice in a person to see if they are worthy to be your friend.
- They will always tell you the truth.
- In an argument they will never use personal stuff from your life againt's you.
- How they treat others?
- How they joke around you?(hate comes in jokes).
- How they talk when angry?.
- How they talk about people who are no longer in their life?.
Lets go in detail what these questions mean.
They Will Always Tell You The Truth.
The most important thing we want in our life is honesty. When we make a friend first thing that should be seen is if they are honest with their other friends. If that person is honest with his/her other friends he/she will most probably be honest with you. There are people out there who pretend to like you in front of people but talk behind your back. In every field of life Honesty is the only thing that can make or break your reputation in the society. A good will always tell you the truth no matter what the situation is or if he lie to you, He will have good reason and it is to protect you from something bad. They will not make it their habit. Best way to see if someone will be honest with you is by testing them eg tell them something and ask them not to tell anyone or if they tell you secret of other people or do they give away information of other people unintentionally then it's a sign they ar eno worth it.
In Argument They Will Never Use Your Personal Stuff Against You
In every friendship there comes ups and down. There is a time when you have misunderstanding. That is when a friendship you find out how strong is your bond. In an argument they will never say something that they know will hurt you or they don't try personal attacks and if they do so it's a sign that they aren't good enough. In anger a person always says what he/she has been dying to say. There is a famous saying, If you want to see someone who they really are
Focus on how they speak when they are angry.
How They Talk About Others In front Of You.
Notice, If they talk about other people in front of you. If yes then what do they say about them how they speak about them if whatever coming out of their mouth is even true, Is it all full of hate or something good. If it is something negative are they appreciating anything.
This is the same way they are going to represent you infront of others.
How They Joke Around You?
Friends in group always joke with each other but there is a line between a joke and a disrespect. Many people use jokes to disrespect you or say what they want to say in a jokey way. Pay attention to jokes they make. No one in this world will straight walk up to your face and say "I am jealous of you" or " I don't like you". It comes in action or in their words and mainly in jokes
How They Talk About People Who Are No Longer In Their Life?
When it come's to respecting someone you can't expect everyone to respect you. There will be someone out there hating on you saying stuff about you. But the real pandamic people are those who start disclosing about your personal life or start spreading hate about you when you are no longer in their life ( for any reason). There are people who start spreading hate about others as long they are not in contact with that person. They start trying to make everyone hate them. It's the thing to see how you will be treated in that person's life. If it's not good then better keep your life a secret instead of telling them more then they deserve to know.
Just be careful who you choose to be with someone who seems all right to you might have evil attention to do wrong with you and sometimes the one's that seem rude turn out to be the nicest person ever. Your friends define you, Choose them Wisel
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