One of the main criteria by which you can understand that something needs to be changed in your life is the state in which you feel uncomfortable. If you think the obstacles are insurmountable, it's time to act. How to do it - says psychologist-hypnotherapist Elena Latysh.
In our minds, there are certain programs (attitudes, decisions, programs) that sometimes dictate to us the form of behavior in a given situation. This is how the brain works: with repeated actions, stable chains of neural connections are formed - they are responsible for the impulses and responses of the body. Normally, neurons take the simplest path to store energy by acting mechanically, so working to change patterns can be more difficult than it might seem at first glance.
Where to begin?
Installations need to be discovered first. That is, to begin to notice them, and, accordingly, to be aware. And then change them to new, more environmentally friendly and efficient ones with the help of a specialist or special practices. This need can arise when a person realizes that he does not have any resources to move on, he feels the situation as a vicious circle of the so-called glass ceiling.
Different beliefs can be either acquired or self-built. They can be passed on from parents, come from childhood experience, be imposed by society or partners. Some behavior patterns arise after certain events from their personal experience. Not all of them need to be changed: some programs help us become better. You need to work only with those that hinder you, restrict your development, movement, growth, happiness.
What negative attitudes can you meet?
If you tell yourself in advance that something will not work out for you - the new relationship will not last long, it is unlikely that it will be promoted at work, the desired standard of living will not be achieved - this limits you. Simply put, don't consider yourself worthy to have what you want.
How to transform a negative attitude?
Choose the area in your life where you cannot get what you want, for example, the area of finance. See what beliefs you have about money. Maybe you think that making big money can only be done dishonestly? Do you need to deny yourself the pleasures so that the account always has the amount "for a rainy day"? You will not be able to earn as much as you want, because no one in your family has ever received so much? Find and write down all of your attitudes towards money.
By the way, your fears may also be on this list - after all, they are also limiting elements and do not allow you to get closer to your dream. Very often we do not have what we want, because we are afraid to have it, no matter how paradoxical it may sound.
The next step is to replace the installation. If it concerns fears, for example, “I'm afraid I won't be able to make big money” should turn into “I wonder how I can make big money”. When the focus shifts from fear to interest, the boundaries expand and you allow yourself to look beyond your fear. In addition, the state of anxiety changes to engagement, arousal, and interest.
If you are working with a negative attitude, then look at your list and think about what you will replace them with. For example, from "I will never make much money" it evolves into "I make big money easily and with pleasure." And so with each.
Observe what happens to you at the moment of creating a positive attitude, because this is the first step on the path to transformation. Hang the list in a prominent place to re-read it as often as possible - this will have a positive effect on your condition, and then start living as if you were already. That is, getting down to some business, rely on the positive attitude you have created.
When we begin to translate fear into interest, and negative into positive, we generate a resource, light state in ourselves, and at this moment the defense mechanisms begin to weaken, because "on the rise" we feel more secure than with restrictions, respectively afraid of change and action. This is how you change your sense of self, and, accordingly, the space around you. What is inside is outside, what is outside is also inside.
The more often you do this practice, the easier it will be for you to realize your fears and limitations, and therefore to influence them. Once you develop this habit, you will feel that you can control your attention and, as a result, actions - this is the essence of transformation.
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