What makes child-rearing so difficult? 'Why did you ask? Isn't it then? That too raises the children of this age? ' Many may murmur that. This is because parenting has become so complex and challenging for today's parents.
Many parents have begun to think that socializing with their children is the most pleasurable event, and that even if they are alone for an hour away from their children, the mind will calm down. Today, there are many families with only one child. Or a maximum of two children. This is why there are so many struggles.
'Want one, want it now. If that happened, then my son would rent the house. This is why my father and I often fight with him ... '- There are no mourning mothers like this. During the holidays, we just watch the kids flirting in the malls and the parents coming to beat them up!
Not only that, no matter how much Malika Marinate and Venkatesh That, watch all the cooking shows and send the children to school to cook, the children who leave it without eating it all, turn child-rearing into an incomprehensible mystery.
On the other hand, there are more and more parents who are drowning in children who are constantly immersed in mobile and video games and are unable to recover from that craze. Well, at least I didn't go down without explaining myself first. Children in their teens tend to have a 'what you say, what I hear' attitude. 'Tell your husband. He is very old ... 'The teenage boys are stunned when they speak in a gruff voice.
But with the salient advantages, you must know some disadvantages as well. What are those nuances, you ask? Here are the words of Brenda Jayaraman for you ...
'' * Child rearing is a paramount duty to be performed from the moment the child is born. If you leave the child unattended until the child is 10 years old and then suddenly adopt the child, you will not be able to control the child.
* At three to four months after the baby is born, it will start laughing at other people's faces. Especially when she starts looking for her mom a lot. Crying is the only language for that child who cannot speak. The baby will only express his feelings through crying if he is hungry, has any physical misuse, or is bitten by an ant or thinks the mother should lift him up. Emphasis should be placed on the baby's cries of hunger, drowsiness and physical misuse and fulfillment of its need. But, simply do not listen to it if it cries that you have to lift. There are other ways to relax and play with the baby. Otherwise, if you get used to lifting whenever the baby cries, the baby will understand this and cry and make you cry and lift you up. This is where the child learns that stubbornness can accomplish something.
* Today's parents are raising their children by giving one extreme pampering. Otherwise, they threaten that I will grow up as a control. Children who are nurtured by their parents who say, 'I can not bear to see my child cry' will grow up to be irresponsible and selfish as I am. They will never be able to work together as a team.
* At the same time, children who are raised with discipline and punishment will grow up to be fearful and lack self-confidence. Unable to express their feelings to their parents, who are constantly scolding them, they become emotionally drained and depressed.
* Therefore, raising a good child is a combination of kindness and determination. Kindly OK, what's for sure? Suppose your child does something wrong ... What will you do? One, you will beat the baby. Or raise your voice. Both of these are not perfect child-rearing. If the child probably makes a mistake, do not raise your voice, but at the same time be sure to let them know your thoughts.
* For example, suppose your child is constantly watching TV without reading, or is immersed in a mobile phone. Immediately, without hitting the child, he said, 'Sorry darling ... I made you aloe to watch TV for an hour every evening. But beyond that, without listening to your mother, you continue to be mobile. TV prejudice. Do not do this anymore, you will not be able to watch TV, even during the usual TV hours. So be careful, 'he said in a firm voice.
* The next day, when your child is watching TV, you should turn it off and read. Otherwise, if you still start watching TV like the first day, do not allow your child to watch TV completely in the next few days.
* If the baby cries for this, do not hit it. Be firm in your decision. If you continue to show your determination like this, the children will come your way, concluding, 'Gamma, Sacha will not be sacrificed anymore'. But this change will not come to children overnight. Only your continued determination and patience will get them in your way.
* Going out shopping with the kids means before you leave, 'We'll buy you your favorite ice cream for shopping. But, do not bake all the stuff. Don't be stubborn, and we will not let you go shopping again. Didn't we tell you we would do it? Behave accordingly. ' If the children are prepared and taken outside, the children will behave without stubbornness.
* There are a lot of parents in our town who bring their kids out to the park, the beach, and still argue fiercely in front of the kids. Do you know what is the most important thing in child-rearing? It means that parents should never fight like this in front of them. When parents constantly fight in front of their children, the children become emotionally traumatized and confused. When the child does something wrong, the children mentally shrink themselves to blame the moms for saying 'Daddy is smart' and the daddy for saying 'Mommy is Xerox ...'. They also distance themselves from their parents.
* Do you know what is the biggest mistake parents make today in child-rearing? Encourage children to buy items as gifts for whatever they want. 'I bought a bicycle at the first mark', 'I bought a Samantha Santa car toy' - parents bribe things to accomplish every thing like this. This is one of the main reasons why children do not understand the beauty of money. Moreover, they learn the false lesson that one can accomplish a task by giving something as a gift. So, if you think of inspiring children to do good things, do not give things and bargain with them.
* 'Um ... Marx would have bought more this time than he did at Math. So, today I'm going to make you your favorite onion baguette ',' To celebrate you's running first today, can we eat bald land today? ' - The child can be encouraged and praised like this.
* If you want to encourage slightly older children, you can do things like letting your son or daughter go out with his friends, or taking your son or daughter's friends home for a meal. Thus, the understanding between parents and children will be strengthened. This will make teenagers feel comfortable with their parents.
* One last thing ... whoever is more responsible for either mom or dad in child-rearing should go with the other. Even if you start implementing all of this to some extent, you will find that raising a child is not that difficult! ” Brenda Jayaraman finished by elaborating.
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