If a woman's spouse dies for any reason, she is called a widow. The feelings she feels after the death of her partner. I come. She refuses to accept this shock. She suffers from the pain of heartbreak. She begins to feel guilt when she is alive and when she leaves her loving partner.
She gets angry. She complains to her lord. And she goes into depression. For a while her world gets dark. She doesn't understand any way yet. She is worried thinking about her children. From today she is not only a mother but also a father. It is easy to say father but it is difficult to prove.
In this world, people add to the difficulties instead of working hard.
Repeatedly she is made to cry because she is a widow. She is ridiculed. Very few people encourage her or help her.
The role of society
Society also plays an increasing role in the personal life of any widow. People who until yesterday were called her husband's friends.
How do they turn away today. Like they never knew. I know many women. Instead of coping with the situation, they took so much stress that she reached the insane asylum. Experts say that 20% of young widows between the ages of 17-40 get remarried. ۔
The rest compromise with their situation. Our religion has given the widow the right to remarry after 'iddah. But very few widows remarry. What should the widow do to control the situation?
Immediate control over current situation
A woman should not be weak at this time, at first it seems very difficult, because grief is also fresh. There is no solution except patience.
First of all, comfort your children in such situations. Explain them with love and give them awareness and awareness. Take them in confidence. How will we run our house together now so that the children do not get involved in anyone else's talk. These days, relatives turn her children against their mother under the pretext of sympathy, which leads to depression.
Courage and courage
At that time, a woman will have to take many bold steps.
The first thing her husband should do is try to deal with her if she has something to give or take. After the death of the husband, first of all the financial situation deteriorates. It is necessary to control them.
Patience
He should be patient, kneel before the will of Allah.
Ask Allah for help, but with patience and prayer, Allah will surely find a way. There is no way out without patience anyway.
Take care of your health
All widows should take special care of their health because now you have to take double duty. You also have to take care of children. You have to play the role of mother as well as father. If something happens to you then Your children will really become orphans.
Consider what the relatives did after the death of your husband in your life. So how will they take care of your children after you? Keep it, so that the children do not have any more problems with your illness.
Adjust social life
Engage yourself in your social life.
Which will also give you peace. Time will also pass in a positive work. In this way you will also reduce the grief of your situation. What the rest of the world says. Stop thinking about it. The only thing that happens in the forgotten world is that he wants to make everyone happy, when it is never possible.
Worship
Worship must be done. Peace of mind will also be found. And patience will also come.
When we worship, we entrust our problems to Allah. Or if there is any harm, we understand the will of Allah and be patient. This gives us peace.
Social work
There is reward in the service of humanity. There is also peace. You need it. Start some social work. There is also peace in the service of humanity. People's work is also done.
There is no need for a big NGO for this. You can help some children in their studies. You can read Qur'an to someone. You can visit a sick person.
What has become natural must be acknowledged
Whatever circumstances have arisen from Allah, there is goodness in accepting them. Anyway, we cannot exert any force.
Taking too much stress for this will hamper the work of children. If you are ill, where will the money come from? From which you will get doctor's fee or medicine.
Strive for a source of income
If you are educated, then find a suitable job. Otherwise, do some work from which you can earn some income. This is very important. There is no shame in working hard for children's education and household expenses.
Mentally, be prepared for the illusions of family and society
The widow has to prove herself strong because if she proves herself weak then people will harass her more. So don't worry about her mental thinking. Do what is best for your home and children. Strengthen yourself psychologically. Remember, no task is difficult for a woman. If she intends, she can do anything. It is not wise to interfere in people's affairs.
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