What's the deal with all of this self-improvement and personal growth talk? To begin with, why bother? Charles Map Book who acquired himself the title as 'the world's most impeccably evolved man' had this to say: The only true success is one's own personal growth.
Personal development is so easy to dismiss as "optional" that very few people ever make the effort to actively improve themselves. One of the most important things you can do with your time is to grow and develop yourself. You could contend that to realize your actual potential is the motivation behind being here. In many ways, everything you do is geared toward "Self improvement." You do everything with a positive intention. This, on the other hand, is mostly unconsciously done, and for the majority of people, it's a matter of pursuing "things" and "stuff" under the erroneous assumption that they will be content when they have enough of it.
It doesn't take much digging to discover how erroneous this theory really is. We read about "extremely successful" people who end up in rehab or take their own lives every day. Why? Returning to Charles Atlas, true success is the growth of one's "self." You can never simply stop and say, "Now that I am successful, I think I will take the next ten years off." Unfortunately, this is "the dream" for a lot of people.
Personal development is the key to happiness throughout one's life. Constantly improving the quality of your life is the only way to achieve true and lasting happiness in life. Life is fluid, and it must continue to change. Like in nature, all that doesn't develop, bites the dust! You will either grow or pass away, and although you probably won't pass away physically, you almost certainly will die mentally. One of the consequences of failing to develop as a person is depression. You'll feel like you're dying if you don't grow.
Opportunities to develop come our way every day. Sadly, the majority of people curse them rather than see the wonderful opportunities they present because they are usually disguised as issues. Don't wish for fewer problems, as Earl Schof once said. Wish you could have been better. This is where personal development comes into play, and you need to do it with intention and a positive mental attitude.
So for what reason really do individuals neglect to take part in their very own development effectively? Well, there are obstacles to personal development that prevent them from actively moving forward in any aspect of your life. The word "actively" is crucial. The three most significant impediments to personal development are three interrelated behaviors that frequently prevent us from moving forward. As a result, we are unable to move forward in our lives.
Obstacle 1 to Personal Development: Irrational delaying of tasks, particularly important ones, is known as procrastination. You may desire a particular outcome on a conscious level and be aware of your options, but you remain immobile. You are where you are because you haven't done anything. It's likely that the thing you're putting off doing is something you absolutely must do because doing so will help you improve your ability to take action and just do it. Keep in mind that you only put off doing things that you value and know will help you in some way.
Personal Growth Obstacle No. 2: Indecisiveness Every action begins with a decision. Every action stems from a decision, and inaction can be attributed to a lack of decision-making. Ironically, ignoring a decision is still a decision, isn't it? Like a disease, you must eradicate indecision from your life. A fear of failure is all that causes indecision, and if you don't make a decision, you can't fail, right? You will almost certainly avoid making the decision if you realize that nothing has occurred in the future and that you are concerned about the worst-case scenario. You won't be able to move forward and remain immobile if you don't make the decisions.
Third Obstacle to Personal Growth: Comfort Zones are all of the things you are too comfortable with, often to the point where you don't even try anything else. Everything is known to you inside your comfort zones, and you feel confident that you will be able to handle anything. You've done it before, and you're comfortable doing it. Your perceptions and beliefs are tested when you step outside your comfort zone. But going outside of your comfort zone forces you to develop as a person—you have to develop before you can feel at ease in a new environment. The greater part of your limits are purposeful and constrained by what you conviction you should or shouldn't do, what you like or aversion, your thought process is correct or wrong. To avoid remaining confined by your comfort zones and standing still, you must continually stretch your "self" physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. "Man's mind, once stretched to new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions," was a quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes.
Every obstacle is only that: a barrier. It never ceases to amaze me how "flimsy" these typical vehicle barriers at border checkpoints are. Despite their inability to stop bicycles, they can stop large sixteen-wheelers. The barrier is more mental than physical. The boundaries to your self-awareness are as well. They can stop you, but unless you let them, they can't keep you. Move on and simply acknowledge them. Personal development is an active process and a choice. You must constantly develop and expand your "self" if you want to live a life that is content, joyful, and full of appreciation.
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