How To Maintain Relationship -Manual For Special Parents

Are the parents of families with special children more divorced than those of other families? I can’t say, but I don’t know that the everyday life of a special family with children puts the relationship to the great test. The problems of a relationship quite often come up with peers.

7 Tips for Saving a Relationship from Total Destruction

I have tried to follow the following seven pieces of advice myself. All the good practices learned through the heel where I really am not a sensei level leader. Rather, I try to even helpfully flick forward these perspectives in my mind. For me, they have worked, so maybe they will be a joy to others as well.

1. Find out which problems are due to the relationship itself and which to something else

If the situation is really such that the problems stem from the relationship itself and there is not enough common will or ability to fix them, then the difference may be a sensible solution. It was a turning point for our relationship to notice that the fault was not in US, or in ME, or IN YOU. Instead of me, you, and us, when the fault was in an overly burdensome life situation, there was a special family of children in hell in everyday life. After this realization, it was much easier to build a more lasting relationship without blame, pressure, competition, and starvation.

2. Agree on common lines for children

I have written many times about how accepting a child’s uniqueness is a difficult journey for all loved ones and that growing up as a special parent is a process that each parent goes through at their own pace. If you have not yet done so in matters related to special children. on the same page, it would still be good to be able to agree on common lines when it comes to caring for children, rehabilitation, running a daily life, going to school, etc. A compromise made along the teeth to which both are committed is also better than parents pulling in two different directions.

3. Distribute responsibilities equally

There are apparently also gender differences in parental reactions to special children. According to a survey by the Association of First and Shelter Homes, fathers are more vulnerable to paralysis and then take more distance to care for their special children, leaving the burden of practical everyday life more on the mother's shoulders. If you haven't been able to teach this at home yet, then fortunately an adult is an instructive animal: you learn to take care of children and do your homework in practice. It’s actually the only way to learn them properly.

Fairness does not mean sharing everything equally. The main thing is that they both have the experience that the other participates and is committed to doing their part

Demonstrating commitment to a relationship is very important, and commitment is best demonstrated through participation and responsibility.

4. Give and take space

Everyone has their own individual ways to recover from the stresses of everyday life, recharge their energies and seek meaning and meaning for their own lives. Taking care of yourself is also everyone’s responsibility, so while it would be tempting to put your own needs in the background on the pretext that all the time goes to satisfying the needs of others, don’t do it. If you download good books, read on. If, on the other hand, neither of these is your thing, don’t spend time on them but invest your limited time in activities that really bring you energy.

5. Save time for a relationship

You just haven’t given yourself permission to use it enough for your partner. Theft can take place in such a way that when you come to work, you first ask about your partner’s affiliations and only then the children. Or you can direct the kids to watch a movie and retreat to another room to chat with a partner. Even small moments are important because the mere indication that you are still interested in your partner in addition to your children strengthens the relationship.

In addition, you will use this behavior to teach your children the model of a good relationship.

6. Apply for outside support

Asking for help is the beginning of wisdom, but the stubborn soul that grew up in a Bangladeshi culture of being alone does not easily bend.

To solve your own nodes, you should apply for therapy support, for relationship nodes you should apply for therapy support and ask your children for anything you can get. External help makes it easier to strive for a better life, or at least to solve many solvable problems and alleviate one's own burden.

7. Plan for a common future

If there are dreams or big plans for the future, then they give strength, direction, and meaning to life. When the peak years are at their worst, it is not worth losing the idea of the future, because then there is no point in torturing it. If you are able to visualize the future of your common way of life, you can start building it now. We must not wait for the future, but live it already piece by piece.

And it doesn't matter if the future doesn't go according to plan. However, life is built together, the relationship is thankful.

A good relationship requires effort

It may be that there are couples with the magical ability to sustain relationship happiness in all its turmoil without its greater crisis, but we mortals usually do not have such innate abilities, and we have to learn relationship skills through trial and error. Is there anything left of life when children have grown up?.