How To Grow A Zen Child

When children are raised naturally, according to their true hearts, we need not teach them anything about Zen. In effect, the children become our teachers, reminding us of what is important and expressing ourselves naturally. Raising a Zen child means raising a healthy, productive, and intelligent child — a child who can easily communicate what he or she really is. This child naturally wants to know about life, he sees each day as a happy thing, he sleeps happily at night. This is a natural instinct for children, able to laugh when things are funny and cry when they are sad, not afraid of the consequences of their behavior or unnecessarily focused on adult responses. The child becomes stronger and more stable, able to cope with all kinds of conflicting demands and pressures. In fact, every Zen practice comes just to teach us how to be a child again. Not the way to be a child, but the way to be a child, the way to experience natural and natural instincts that we were all born with, to find happiness in our day and to share it with others. To raise a Zen child some basic steps need to be taken seriously. These steps are not difficult, although they may differ from the ways in which we are often trained to think about raising children. Other Steps to Raising a Zen Child 1) Respect the Natural Wisdom and Gifts of the Child Most of us feel that we should fill our children with knowledge, knowledge, skills, and guidance. From the moment we are born we must "shape ourselves" in the right way, so that they can grow up to fulfill our values ​​and the image of a successful adult. Let us pause and ask how these pictures have affected us, how fulfilled and complete our lives are. We teach our children more about who we are than what we preach. All children have their own instinctive wisdom, rhythm, sense of exploration, and the ability to express what they really like. Our job as caregivers is to create a loving, safe environment in which we and they can discover who they are. Raising children, (like Zen practice) is a process of adoption. We should lead the children, not force ourselves on them. When children feel deeply respected, all that is good and natural comes easily. Their full intelligence and skills are found in them. This type of child will not be aggressive, disruptive and full of all kinds of fears. When the basic human environment is not disturbed, it has the potential to become more efficient. 2) Do Not Compare Your Child With Others Competition and competition have become the norm (and plague) in our nation and the process of raising children. There is nothing wrong with parents and children. Comparing your child's progress, points or skills with those of other children does not tell you anything about who he or she is, or how he or she will behave in life. There are many ways and times to develop, with different talents and abilities that different children have. Remember that diversity does not mean better or worse. Many types of trees and flowers are needed in the garden. An apple tree will produce the best apples, don't force it to give you pears. Not only will this affect its growth, but it will also cause the apple tree to wither. A garden with only one kind of history can be unattractive. Just as we need roses, tulips, lilies, etc. for the garden to be perfect, we need all kinds of different kids to make the whole world. 3) Let Your Child Identify Who He Is There are many, many challenges to what children are allowed to express. There is a need for respect, control and suspicion coupled with an inward perception that certain thoughts and feelings are bad and cannot or should not be expressed. The child feels that certain portions of it are bad and unacceptable. This causes these parts to go underground, and become a source of symptoms of all kinds. Help the child find a way to communicate and expose anything he or she is going through. It can be done with words, song, art, games, dancing together, planting flowers. Make sure you find a way to let them know that you really understand what they are saying. The child's fitness will then grow. 4) Look And See The Best In Everything A Child Does Instead of finding fault, criticizing, punishing and blaming the child for the thousands of ways we often do, look especially and see what is best for the child and everything he or she does. Admit it too. Every day tell your child something you are proud of and happy about.