How To Instantly Enter “The Good Life”
If anyone was to ask you, “How much does a thought weigh?” you would probably say that thought has no weight.
And yet, nothing in life may be heavier than the thought that defines for you what “the good life” is, the thought that defines for you a life that is worth living.
For on the other side of such thoughts resides their opposite, lurking in the shadows. This shadow thought tells you that a life other than the one that defines the good life defines a bad life, a life too painful to live in. The thought that shadows the idea that defines a life that is worth living defines a life that is worth leaving. It is the shadow side of our bright ideals makes thoughts so heavy; in some cases, too heavy to bear.
This heaviness is really the source of our self-imposed depressions. We think about our life in comparison with another’s life and our life makes us look like a failure to ourselves. The soul-searing pain that comes with such a thought can seem unbearabl
What Do You Count On For A Good Life?
The whole problem lies in what we are counting on for the good life. If you are counting on living up to your ideas you are ignoring your natural state. A good life is one that feels truly good in the now, and that good feeling is the product of being naturally who you are. The moment you go into unnatural strain to live up to an idea, or to get your life to live up to an idea, you are really leaving the good life, disconnecting from the life that feels truly good.
How you think about yourself and about your life has nothing to do with who you truly are and what your life truly is.
Distinguish Between Your View And What You View
You can be holding a stone in your hand and perceive it as a valueless chunk of earth. But if the stone that you are holding is actually a precious gem of incalculable worth, your view of it robs you of its value!
Your view of a condition does not change the real nature of the condition.
This insight is like a gem of incalculable worth as it applies to your self, to your life and to your potential for happiness, for living the good life.
Even as you might hold your self in low esteem you remain a sacred, infinite, Divine being too magnificent for any thought to conceive of. The same is true about your life. While you may view your situation as a menacing threat it is a Divine, sacred instant in the timeless flow of the eternal infinite.
Your view that your self and your life lack value, then, does not in any way diminish the infinite value of both!
To Experience Joy
To experience the joy of infinite value we merely need to relinquish the ideas, the perspectives, the mental projections that tell us that who we are and the life we are living are lacking in any way.
When we drop our ideas of the good life and live naturally in the harmony of being who we are in this moment, without suppressing our nature in an attempt to live up to an idea, and without beating ourselves up over the idea that we are failing to live up to that idea, we begin to experience the splendor of who we really are and of this unlimited life that we are living in. In other words, we set ourselves free of the heavy, sometimes even soul-crushing burden of self-deprecating thought.
The Origin Of False Values
We know the origin of these soul-crushing ideas. They have been socially, culturally programmed into us. Had we been raised in a different place, or in a different time, our ideas of what we have to be and do to feel worthwhile would be quite different. There is no intrinsic truth in any of our personal, culturally formed values. Our parents inculcated into us the very ideas of the good life that were enslaving them, and thus we learned to enslave ourselves to ideas like we must be popular to be deserving of self-acceptance, or we must have a mate to avoid feeling ashamed of ourselves.
Exit The Wrong Relationship For You
We can define the essence of the wrong relationship for you as being with someone who is hell-bent on imposing upon you his or her ideas of what you should be. And when you fail to match those ideas that person feels justified in punishing you with hot condemnation or cold rejection. You can spend your whole life trying to live up to this person’s expectations, expecting that once you do so you will finally receive the kind of treatment you want from that person. As you do this, though, it is you, and not that other person, who is making you miserable, because you are choosing to ignore your true nature and its guiding impulses.
The demands that others make upon you, promising that their gifts of love and approval will follow when you follow their demands, are really nothing but distractions. You need to tune them out in order to be fully tuned in to your natural way of being your self in the now. That attunement reveals the inner feeling that guides your way of living, the way a musician is guided to play his instrument a certain way based on the feeling of beautiful harmony he wants from the music.
As hard as it is to be in a relationship with another person who imposes demands on you without regard or respect for your need to follow your own natural way of being and living, it is infinitely harder when you are that demanding person in relation to your self!
End The False Pressure
The idea-demands that you impose upon yourself impose a false pressure upon you. When you base your life on outcomes, without regard to how you feel along the way, you prevent your self from achieving the outcome that you really want, which is to be so in harmony with who you are that you feel truly happy and fulfilled in your life right now.
The unending pressure to live up to our success-ideas, to preserve the situations that support our belief that we are matching those ideas, to avoid or escape from situations that present us with the opposite view of ourselves, make life feel like a living hell, when the real purpose of life is to enjoy this sacred adventure that we are on and to appreciate every sacred instant of it.
Liberate Your Self From Mental Pictures Of Failure
Ironically, when we are in our state of natural joy we naturally function at our highest, most talented, inspired, noble and gifted levels; we attract the most positive notice from others; and we thus draw to us the very conditions that we formerly felt enslaved to produce in misery.
Learn how to liberate your self from enslavement to ideas of what you and your life must look like in your mind for you to feel successful, to feel worthy of love, approval and acceptance, and to feel that your life is worth living. Liberate your self from mental pictures of failure.
As you achieve this liberation you will find yourself simultaneously liberated from being controlled or dominated by anyone who seems to promise that he will give you what you want when you give him what he wants.
When you feel truly happy there is nothing you really want from another human being, and therefore there is no human being who has any power over you. You are free to let others be as they are as you free yourself to be as you are. This is how to instantly enter the good life, no matter what your life may be right now.
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