Confidence is the only aspect which lets us walk confidently, live our lives peacefully or lets us do what we want to.  This teenage is a very difficult stage for all of us, who said being a child/student/teenage is a cakewalk. We are burdened with lots of tasks, be it completion of work on time, self-studying,   improving ourselves or developing our self-image. 

We work very hard to improve ourselves and to reach where we want to be. But problems arise when we come across people better than ourselves, we start comparing ourselves with others, start losing confidence, start doubting ourselves, start asking ourselves "Why I am not like that particular person?"; and then soon start hating ourselves and our life. But we should remember that it is very easy to love others, but very difficult to love ourselves. And this is what the leader of famous K-pop band BTS has taught the whole world, so we should always love ourselves. 

We should give priority to ourselves first and focus on our thoughts and actions. After all,  it is our life,  and it is we who have to live either happily or sadly. There might be some situations when our expectations don't meet the reality, but remember that not all storms come to disrupt our life,  some come to change our life. God has a purpose for our pain,  reason for our struggle and a reward for our faithfulness, so we should leave everything on God and keep going in life. 

We sometimes think that our life is difficult, but when this thought strikes our mind, we should think again, because in some corner of the world there might be a person who would be wishing to live life like that of ours when we are wishing to live others' lives. There is nothing wrong in making mistakes or crying hard when we are afraid, but giving up should not be the solution. We should take everything positively and try to learn from our mistakes and circumstances, after all,  our next step is what makes the difference in our life. 

Ways to gain confidence:

1. Think that you have the qualities of achiever:

Self-esteem is the value judgement that we hold about ourselves. As individuals,   we hold some values about ourselves, for example, "I am honest", "I was born to be successful" etc.

Start telling yourself that you have good qualities of a successful person and one day you are going to be successful. 

Tell yourself what are your good qualities,  your abilities, your dreams, your talents and skills, and what are your biggest strengths and limitations. 

2. Believe that you would do it:

Now start believing that you are what you think about yourself,  rather than doubting or saying to yourself that are don't have any good qualities. 

In order to become a successful person, it is very important for your conscious mind to believe that you have those good qualities of a successful person,  and you're going to be successful with your consistent efforts and hard work, and then only your subconscious mind will take over and start acting as you think, if you think that you are an active person not a procrastinator, your subconscious mind will start acting as the same. 

3. Write your goals in a diary:

Maintain a diary, and write your goals in the morning when you wake up, in the afternoon and in the night before you sleep in the following exemplary manner, 

For example, you want to get selected in a particular interview, you would write in the morning as "I can  be  selected in the interview"  for three times, then in the afternoon you would write it as  "I will get selected in the interview" for six times,  and then before you go to sleep, you would write it as "I got selected in the interview" for nine times. 

This technique has to be done for consecutive thirty days with hope and belief that this will happen, and it will happen definitely. 

This technique honestly works on the people who do it consistently. 

4. Develop productive habits:

Take good care of yourself, meditate in the morning and before going to bed. 

Have proper three meals a day. 

While meditating, counter all your problems and try to solve it by viewing situations or things from the perspective of a third person, analyzing  what is right and wrong, telling yourself what you should do and start acting in the right direction. For example, 

You have a belief that everyone should treat in the same manner as I treat them, 

then ask yourself why do you want others to treat you in the same positive or negative manner as you treat them, say to yourself that every creature loves freedom, and they would act the way they wish or like to because according to them the things they are doing is right which might be wrong for you. 

Positive Self-talk is very important. 

Maintain a diary and write all your thoughts daily, it would help you stop overthinking about a particular thing. 

5. Organize your time:

Organize your schedule in such a manner that you do most of the tasks that would make you achieve your goals while enjoying the time and having breaks in between. 

Believe in yourself that you would follow your schedule today, don't doubt that you would not be able to follow it, and don't think about whether you would be able to follow it for a month or not, say to yourself that today you would follow the schedule and don't think about tomorrow, the next morning when you wake up, say to yourself that the way you followed yesterday's schedule the same way you would be able to follow your schedule today as well. 

6. Have a good company of people:

Be surrounded with  good people only who care for you and who want to see you happy. People who can see tears in your eyes don't even care for you. 

Let those people go away from your life who hurt you always and do the things which hurt you repeatedly, because they don't value you, if they did, they would have stopped doing the things which hurt you and which make your heart bleed. 

When people say that they are busy,  respect their time and believe that they are busy, let them do whatever they want to with peace, and stop thinking about that person and delete them from your life. 

Don't think that they were the only person who could make you happy, how can I stop talking to them, just ask yourself whether they cared for you any day, then it would be easy to forget that person. 

It is not important to have a group of people by your side to support you, love you or care for you  ; but   having a group be it small or large who actually value you and your words, emotions etc. is the most important thing. 

Life is a garden, you would find more beautiful flowers if you keep on moving,  just keep walking, and accept it that not every flower is meant for your basket.