How To Gain Confidence and Boost Self Esteem in 5 Simple Steps

We all want to be more confident and feel good about ourselves so we can live our best life. Here are some ways to gain confidence and boost your self-esteem: 1. Do something that requires a decision and follow-up. Have you been putting off writing that letter to Aunt Martha? Is there a friend you wanted to call? Wash the car, clean the garden or clean the house. You gain confidence by setting goals (even small ones) and following them.2. Enjoy something you do well. Do you have any hobbies or sports that you enjoy playing? Some things like swimming, painting, or writing can keep your attention and get you into a state of "fluency." While you are in the flow, you forget everything else. You will then feel competent and capable. It's a great way to boost your confidence. If you don't have any particular hobbies or pastimes that you enjoy, try something you've always wanted to try. Imagine doing it, then try it! It doesn't have to be anything big - it can be as simple as joining a walking club. You will find that you are more focused and happier if you do something at least once a week that gets you into that flow.3. Shift the focus. Low self-esteem has been shown to develop hand-in-hand with individuals who focus too much on themselves. You can gain confidence by doing something that focuses on someone else, or even something else. You'll find that when you're in a situation where you're meeting new people, you'll instantly feel less nervous if you focus on the person you're meeting. At the end of the day you have interacted with others and you will notice that you feel much lighter.4. Relax already! Learning to be more relaxed is a great addition to life. People who are more relaxed have fewer memory problems and are more likely to approach life's obstacles with equanimity. The practice of meditation has gained popularity for this reason. You may want to look into Tai Chi, which involves physical relaxation techniques. Whatever method you choose, take relaxation seriously. The benefits are too great to ignore. If you've never considered relaxation important, think about it this way: if you can do something that makes you feel good, how can you not gain confidence in your personal abilities?5. Make a list of everything you have ever accomplished. Think small. Success is success! Some things you could put on your list: I passed my driving test and got my license, I scored a goal while playing hockey, I managed to save enough money for a trip, and so on. These are just a few ideas you can use to gain confidence and boost your self-esteem. Use these ideas as a baseline and add these things permanently to your life. Keep in mind that people are not born with good self-esteem, most of us have to work at it. It evolves from your thinking and the things you do daily to feel good.