How to build up self-confidence

Be confidence, you should be more confidence, you need little, a bit of confidence. We hear these speeches almost all the time. And we try to be confidence. But do we know what is self-confidence!!!! Self-confidence means self-esteem. It is the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. Self-confidence is the knowledge that you can do something and do it well. Self-confidence comes from firsthand knowledge of the task at hand, knowing your strengths and weakness, applying your skills to any situation. Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our life. Without it, we cannot do anything. It is quite impossible to gain something without being self-confidence.

The importance of self-confidence in our life can not be described in word. It is needed almost all the sector of our life. For example, in institutional sector, in professional sector and even in real life. If we are confidence, we will not stumble in our way of life. Confidence can make everything easier. Let's hear a story,

"Once in a royal court, there was a courtier who was not confident bot very brilliant. The king of the court asked all the courtier for some advice about an important issue. And the next day, the king asked for advice from everyone. The courtier who was less self-confidence gave a good advice but without confidence. But another member of the court, gave comparatively a less important advice but with full confident, praised by the king."

By this, we can understand the importance of self-confidence. If we give a comparatively bad answer, but confidently, it will be more raisable than the other people who give the best answer but without confidence. If you have confidence, you can join in any activities without any fear. The importance of self-confidence can not be imagined. One can not achieve his / her goals without self-confidence. Self-confidence makes a person independent, eager, optimistic, loving and positive by nature. And all these characteristics are important to achieve goals in life. It is not so that a confident person will always win and achieve success in life. But a self-confident person will always come over a different situation. He or she understands that it's not always about winning, but about learning from your mistakes. Without it, one will be always leg behind. He or she will always stumble in his or her way of life.

One can improve his or her self-confidence in many ways. The first step is to say what you feel. People shy away when it comes to express one's opinion. They also find it very difficult to say no to something they do not like. Saying no to something they do not like or are not comfortable with is very important. You do not need to feel guilty about it. People also face the problem of presumption. This also shakes self-confidence. For example, you are going to a debate competition, and you know that the opponent in very strong, you may feel nervous that you will lose. This can bring negativity and can affect your debate.

Here are some of the pillars or way to build self-confidence of Nathaniel Branden's book 'Six Pillars of self-esteem' :

The practice of living consciously.
The practice of self acceptance.
The practice of self responsibility.
The practice of self assertiveness.
The practice of living purposefully.
The practice of personal integrity.

By all these discussions, we can understand that it is not a born quality. So, we have to practice it more to gain this ability. At the end, we should always remember that,"Accept the things you can not change. Have courage to change the things you can..... and have the wisdom to know the difference".