I think few can deny that one of the most important aspects of child care comes in the form of love. Without the obvious need for sustenance to survive, love reaches the peak of a child's needs, and that progresses from childhood to adolescence. Most youths would probably not agree; many young children find it difficult to say; and kids can't tell. But, children of any age need love.
Also needed during the child-rearing period is discipline; a reasonable level of discipline that the child will benefit from throughout his or her adult life. Applying discipline may seem to be more difficult as the child grows older, in direct proportion to the child's ability to express himself with assertiveness. In reality, though, applying discipline to a child can be very difficult, since it is such a subtle and vague process.
A teenager who ignores your curfew at 10pm is a clear disciplinary problem. For some, the baby that cries out for toys will be bathed and put to bed, not even disciplined, and they may not think so. They love the baby, they want him to be happy and, despite knowing that the baby should sleep, feel sorry for him and give him back his toys.
Does a Child Need Discipline?
Discipline in a child is often about the limits of assessment; the limits of what they are allowed to do and what they are not allowed to do. If they do not like the answer, they protest and try again; and again. If the border they are trying to cross is easily crossed, you encourage them to go back and do it again.
If the boundary is tight, when the parent does not bend down and bends over, the child or baby will give up… .. finally. Patience and consistency are essential to punishment, otherwise the child will be confused; they will not learn what is acceptable and wrong, if one day you give in to their protests, and one day you do not.
In the example above, the child has used tears successfully to cope with a parent's better judgment. Bath and bedtime are delayed, with a double effect. First, she will not go to bed at the right time, and she will be crotchety and very tired, and she will cry a lot the next time you try to put her to bed. Second, his success in preventing bathing will strengthen him in the future; he has learned that screaming will do him a favor.
About ten years ago, while I was living in the UK, there was a survey of young people, finding out what was most needed to make their lives happier and better. More than half said they wanted more discipline; yes, “what you want”.
Discipline has been allowed to spread across all Western societies, causing young people to feel that there is no proper direction in their lives. However, there is no need to allow your child to be one of the only children who can be disciplined.
Does the child need discipline? In my opinion, and based on my experience, the answer is a resounding "yes".
Can Love and Morals Be Mixed?
From a “second” parent's point of view, I would say that not only love and discipline are also important, but they are equally important. While working from home, I was able to look after our daughter for two years. I have always been here and always to apply “discipline” and give a lot of love, affection and hugs.
I feel that love is not just a feeling; How is that possible? By threatening to take your love away if the child is naughty?
No, there is no need to make any threats at all. A child needs and deserves love from its parents. You, primarily, their lives. Realizing that you do not feel happy when they do something wrong, that will eventually dictate their deepest desire to be happy with them, to commend them, and to express your love for them.
If a child's bullying threatens their ideal world, seeing the negative impact on you, the child will learn to put things back on your happy, praiseworthy terms again, and express your love. They will not just say they are sorry, they will be right, because they are really sorry. At that level, self-control becomes the child of self-control if there is enough love in the home that can make him crave that love more than anything else.
I’m not saying that disciplining any child is easy, but with enough love it can be a smooth process when you see things from a child’s point of view, and understand that a child, deep down, wants to please you more than anything else.
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