Being interesting is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. It makes people want to talk to you. It makes you exciting to interact with, drastically increasing how attractive you are to members of the opposite sex. So how exactly do we become more interesting? Well, Let's start by looking at what makes people uninteresting.
There are two types of people in this category. First, you have what I like to call the plane. Janes, these people want to fit in, which is a wonderful thing to do, but they often take it too. They often only talk and do things that are considered to be socially acceptable. Things that won't make anyone think twice about them.
Their jokes are the same. They like to hang out in the same places. They watch the same shows as everyone else. The reason they don't seem interesting is that they are nonpolarizing. Something polarizing will cause others to form an opinion about you.
For example, if I openly said that I think Mexican food sucks, there will be people who agree with me, and there will also be people who disagree with me. Outraged comments exist on certain YouTube channels that also seem to have extremely loyal fans because their content is polarizing. Playing James tried their best to avoid polarizing statements and actions, and because of this, they fail to trigger any sort of emotion in the people they interact with. Without being polarizing, it is impossible to become interesting.
So how do we become more polarizing?
Well, the best way to do so is to expose yourself to a wider variety of things, read more books, travel and meet people from around the world, watch movies and shows that aren't mainstream, and listening to lectures about subjects you don't necessarily agree with. By exposing yourself to new ideas and other people's viewpoints, you will start to form a combination of opinions and tastes that are unique to you. This will naturally make you more polarizing. The second group of people who are not interesting is what I like to call the creeps.
Creeps are polarizing.
They say polarizing things. They have polarizing hobbies. They like to do polarizing things that set them apart from others. However, they like to hide their intentions. When you do polarizing things, people around you will often inquire about the action.
For example, just the other day, I forgot to lock my bathroom door, and a friend of mine walked in while I was using the toilet. He quickly apologized, looked away, and left. When I use the toilet, I squat on top of the toilet instead of sitting on the Bowl. Like most people do, this in itself is a very polarizing action. So, of course, afterward, my friend inquired about what I was doing in the bathroom.
If a creep were caught in the situation, they would most likely try to hide the fact that they were doing something weird in the first place. They'd say something along the lines of what I wasn't doing anything or angrily say, You know, you should honestly knock before you open a closed door. When you prevent a full dialogue about your polarizing action, people will automatically assume there's a bad reason why you're hiding this information. This is a human response. The unknown is scary.
The key thing to remember about lying is that the more you lie, the easier it is for others to find inconsistencies in your stories or actions. This is why we have an innate fear of the dark and of deep murky water. This bad feeling is what makes you seem creepy. Becoming more honest is something that some people struggle with. And I think what helps is the internalization of the following concepts.
Think of it like the Hydra from the Hercules movie. Three more inconsistencies are born for every lie you create and every head of the Hydra you cut off. Three more heads pop up in its place. So it's not hard for the average person to spot some inconsistencies in your stories after just two to 3 lies, and once they do, all the trust you've built with them will go out the window. You immediately get categorized as someone they can't trust, a potential enemy.
You have to understand it's better to be polarizing and have others disagree with you than to be considered someone who can't be trusted. No one wants to associate themselves with someone who might stab them in the back. All right, so to summarize, what makes people uninteresting in playing James is nonpolarizing but are honest about their actions mainly because they do the same thing as everyone else and have nothing to hide. Creeps, on the other hand, are polarizing, but they hide their intention. So Here's the secret to becoming more interesting.
You have to be polarizing and honest about your actions. At the same time, when you are polarizing and honest, you will say odd things that grab people's attention. People will wonder why you do these things, have certain beliefs, and wonder about what other things you do. And the fact that you're confident enough in yourself to stand behind and your odd views creates a sense of mystery. , Let's go back to the example of my toilet habit.
So my friend asked, What were you doing in the bathroom? And I responded by saying, oh, I always squat on top of the toilet. I responded honestly to my friend, who just encountered a very polarizing situation, and because of this, a sense of mystery and interest is created. His natural response is, of course, wait, why take a second and note how you feel about the situation. Chances are you also feel a bit interested in why I do this.
Why does the improvement pill squat on top of toilets? That's interest being cultivated right in front of you with polarization and honesty for those who wonder why I squat on top of the toilet; it's actually because you guys are not using the toilet properly. See, our ancestors have been using a squatting stance to pastor stores for millions of years. Our bodies are actually all designed to pass waste in this form. Sitting on the toilet actually creates a sort of choke point, making it much harder to get the deed done.
Many hospitals actually use this form for some of their patients to use the bathroom more effectively, and that's that becoming more interesting is something any of us can do. So when you squat on top of the toilet, you don't have to strain yourself at all. All you have to do is become more polarizing and practice being as honest as possible about your opinions and actions. This will actually make you more interesting, which will improve just about all of your interactions. Speaking of how to be interesting, this episode was brought to you to help the guys at Brilliant Org.
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