Love is indeed an undefined parameter, you can’t define it properly it can vary from person to person. Some couples’ lives go smooth after a love affair turns into a marriage, for some it can be terrible. But managing the situation according to the needs of life can make your marriage very happy. This will only be possible if both partners are truly involved.
According to Lord Buddha, the expectation is the main cause of pain. Don’t expect too much in the beginning. Train your mind first; tell your mind to accept the new family as well as their culture. You have to earn trust first. And then you can change anything you think is wrong. After marriage, you have to stay with your spouse, father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, niece, nephew and other relatives also. In a few cases, the new couple stays apart for the purpose of their job, but are in contact with other members of their family, influenced by the family. Each of them has different nature, expectation. Financial background may be different. They may have a different culture.
The culture you grew up in may be different. Your nature may be different so, your expectation, your choice may be different, it is natural if you feel uncomfortable at such times.
First, both of you need to understand, the actual life begins now, the time you have to spend in a relationship was wonderful no doubt but in that period you peoples had no responsibility towards life. Your family was taking care of ever everything. Now after marriage, it’s your responsibility to take care of your own and your entire family. Whatever you promised to your spouse and that were you expected from him/her is to be considered and try to do the same but if not completed don’t force don’t get unhappy, as the situation now has been changed.
Now you have to face the challenges of daily life. You have to make money for now and for the future also. You have to develop empires for yourself. You may have job pressure, you may have business pressure, and you may have family pressure. In this situation, if you have all the expectations, your marital life will be broken, life will be spoiled. So it is good to understand each other, you will definitely have a better life ahead.
The following points should be considered, to be happy.
Guide for her
1. Accept the truth, understand him, and respect him.
2. Accept his family, and be respectful and be friendly with them.
3. Don’t detach your husband from his family.
4. Don’t expect all the promised yours husband had made to you before marriage will complete, try to understand real life situation.
5. Try to behave as you were behaving before marriage.
6. Encourages and appreciate him for his work.
7. Help him whenever and whatever possible.
8. Take care of him.
Guide for him
1. Accept the truth, understand her, and respect her.
2. Accept and respect her family; help them whenever they are in trouble.
3. Her freedom should not be taken away.
4. Don’t expect she can do everything as per you.
5. Try to complete whatever promise you have made to her.
6. Encourages and appreciate her for her work.
7. Be helpful for her, be with her whenever she is right
8. Take care of her.
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