How Things that husband and wife should not talk about before and after marriage

Can there be secrets between a man and a woman after joining life as husband and wife? The answer given by today's psychologists is different. 'Secrets must remain between the two. Better to keep it a secret. They say that life will be sweet only as long as the husband and wife protect their previous secrets. They say that his blunt and forthright speech has taken many people's lives by storm. They say that sharing everything especially before marriage will lead to unnecessary confusion and lead to divorce, and they show a long list of things that husband and wife should not talk about before and after marriage. Most of the women try to make their life after marriage completely different. The first step is to be open with your husband and to be transparent. That's good. No need for secrets after marriage. But pre-marital secrets should not be shared without thinking first. In order to have a happy post-marriage life, it is natural for many people to keep their pre-marriage affairs confidential. They are ready to share everything with the attitude that they have done nothing wrong. The problem does not arise only if there are intimate relations before marriage. Even simple things that a wife says can cause suspicion and misconceptions to grow in the husband's mind. There are many cases where things that happened before marriage turned out to be disastrous because they shared openly about it. It has shattered many marriages. Many recent divorces have been attributed to past lives. As problems between husband and wife are increasing, the number of people coming for counseling is also increasing. Many such men say, 'My wife is not good. So I want to leave her.' 'After entering into the marriage relationship, it is enough if the wife respects that bond and behaves. The number of men who sincerely say that they are not interested in knowing about premarital status is less. It is better for women to keep their previous secrets until such-minded men are born. Often the wife does not think much about her husband's past. But the wife's past also becomes a source of trouble for the husband from time to time. Many of the women tearfully say, 'After knowing my past completely, my husband tortures me by telling me those bitter things'. The women's fault is almost half of it. Life is not a field where only good things happen. A land where both good and evil can be produced. Some of these weeds may sprout without our sowing. Learn to throw them away. Only then can happiness be cultivated. The past is the past, sweet or not. But the present is most important. You have to get used to it to live happily. Remarried people should be more careful about talking about old things. One should have a broad mind in remarriage. There should be no past conflicts. Couples should not share about it unnecessarily. After deciding that this is life, don't dig up the old. The new life should be treated with respect. Marriage is a contract. There are many secrets to be kept. Be it happy or bitter, it is good to bury the significant ones in your mind. There is no need to share past events that create unnecessary problems. One should put an end to past memories while accepting married life. That is the right decision. It is not a wise act to scatter what is in hand by saying what has passed.