One of the biggest costs we pay in life is the cost of being right. Some of us would sacrifice almost anything just to stand last. A man who was surrounded by his peers is now sitting alone, safe in the knowledge that he is right in his point of view even though he has separated all the people around him. Anna is a very powerful being who is not watched.
Have you ever tried arguing with a child who knows everything? This is their way or not at all. They cannot easily comprehend another person's point of view. Children go through a phase where they become very self-absorbed. Everything is 'mine' and they will not share. The world revolves around their desires and needs. This is a normal stage of childhood where the child emphasizes his individuality and independence. The problem arises when the behavior is taken into adolescence.
People who need to be right have little patience for others. They understand the right way to work their thoughts and the right way to think their point of view. Dissent is a direct insult to their sense of well-being and they become extremely aggressive in their defense. They isolate others by insisting on being 'right'. The significance of the issue under discussion does not seem to matter. A simple store trip can end in disaster. Anger and lack of empathy seem to be the rule of thumb.
People are different. Each of us has a unique set of DNA that will never be replicated without cloning. I don't think like you and vice versa. Our brains are connected in different ways. What seems natural and easy to me is probably impossible for you. Too often we get caught up in the thought, "If I can see it so clearly, why in the world can't you see it?" "If I can do it, why can't you?" But the fact that I can do something doesn't mean I can do it. Nor does it make me better or better. Just different
What is right and wrong? I make cakes in a special way and I decide that this is the 'right' way to make a cake. Still, my next-door neighbor uses a completely different method, and guess what? Her cake is just as good. The cake is not edible, there is nothing right or wrong about it, there are just different ways to bake a cake. Some methods may be more effective, true. But that's not necessarily the only way to do it
Webster's Dictionary defines the word truth as follows: according to facts or truth; The most favorable or desired. Can a person's opinion or idea be correct because it is considered to be based on truth or reality? By the way, whose truth? Or better yet, if the two perspectives can each be true, then which one is more correct? Can one's position on a subject be most favorable or desirable? It's very relative and I think that's the point. It's all relative.
The existence of truth bears a striking resemblance to the definition of selfishness which Webster describes as convincing of one's righteousness, especially as opposed to the actions and beliefs of others: narrow-minded to moral. Oops! Now we are getting closer. Someone who needs to be right will consider himself honest, that is, someone who feels that the way he looks and does things is superior to others.
This brings to mind religious pious people who believe that their way of worshiping G-D is the right way and whoever does not adhere to his belief is not only a kafir but also a kafir. They desperately need to convert non-believers, believing that unless you adhere to my way of thinking, you will be punished in hell. My belief in something different is considered a threat. Of course, this is a very important issue, but it certainly shows the nature of what is right.
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