How Introvert parenting is also good parenting

I am an introverted parent. I like it, and I need a lot of space for my own activities. In the daily life of a family of seven, my tendency, of course, constantly diverges from the requirements of the area: "You didn't hear again. Hey, your baby is talking to you! The earth is calling." And I get annoyed too.

Sandman Sonoma- a writer - wrote in the morning of the month about a pen that said it was at the age of a weak flower. It was a long-awaited track that said that we as parents are different too, and no one should inevitably be a hyperactive playmaker or super-mother who always focuses on everything the kids are doing. Rather, you can be a great mom, reading a magazine or immersed in your work. All different, all good parents.

However, why does it seem that in order to be a good parent, you have to do a huge amount of collaborative parenting every day, as well as be enthusiastic about every intervention you make while being with children and playing? Play with your kids at least 20 toys a day! Be close to the child at any time! Strengthen your relationship with your child every day by doing it together! Yes, these snacks can turn an introverted parent into an unfortunate pantomime obsession.

This is definitely good advice. I also try to keep in mind a more active presence and be flexible depending on my capabilities. But these tips are a bit one-sided. Along with them, a fix is required. Let your kids rest at least 20 lights a day! Teach your child to focus on effects. Enhance your child's tone direction by letting him or her create effects for themselves! Give yourself time to be yourself!

When A. was four years old, and we first got into the children's psychiatric ward, it was difficult for the nannies to teach me how to play and work with children. I am grateful for participating in this kind of exercise. It solidified my chops as a parent. But I would be grateful if my own way of aging was more appreciated in the true morning (recently, yes, the appreciation has increased). The fact that it's unnatural for me to immediately rush into a children's shack to build a Lego palace is not an unsafe absence for children. I just communicate differently with my children, and I don't mind if the children themselves learn to focus only on their own effects from time to time.

Also, introverting was really helpful. My reflective abilities are excellent, so I can analyze and explain my own effects and those of my children well. I am a calm and thoughtful person who really retains his ability to serve when others panic. I would say that introversion also increased my empathy, that is, the ability to put myself in my place. Yes, these chops were monstrously useful in raising children, although they are neutralized by separation from their own activities and perverted use due to excessive noise and chaos. Either A is similar in this respect and shows both good and evil in us.

To be clear, I must say that I am by no means antisocial. I may not like being the center of attention all the time, but there is nothing wrong with my social habits. Vice versa! I also diligently attend to household chores, babysitting, remembering customs and holidays (well, not always), and, as much as possible, participating in the manners and sorrows of everyday life and parenthood with my partner. Also, I have learned to be ashamed of my quiet flower because I have to explain and try to touch others in this way.

I admit that I sometimes envy those parents who feel they are all the time present in their children's conditioning and yet enjoy it naturally. However, I decided that although it is good to try to develop these paces in myself, I am different - and no worse! If I don't have enough space to study and exist, I also get anxious and depressed. Besides, it's not good for fatherhood. In fact, although I love my children, I still dream of being in nature someday. So it is better to share the life of children in your own way, with your own meter and your own strength.