Can the fight between husband and wife end like this?
Can marital fights end like this, the secret to a happy married life that can save many families from breaking up?
The relationship between husband and wife is very beautiful, but today sometimes the husband has a complaint with the wife and sometimes the wife is disgusted with the husband. Due to the daily fight, not only their own life becomes painful, but its bad effects also start to fall on their children. A relationship ends in separation.
An article is going viral on the internet which summarizes a letter attributed to a woman about how she ended her quarrels with her husband and lead a happy life and this article may also be useful for the readers.
There was a woman whose husband loved her very much. This woman was asked the secret of her happy life that she cooks very delicious food. Or is her husband infatuated with her beauty? Or has she been a woman who has given birth to many children? Or is there another secret of his love?
The woman replied:
The reasons for a happy life are in the hands of the woman herself after the presence of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. If a woman wants, she can make her house a paradise and if she wants, she can make it a hell.
Nor is it a great virtue to be a woman who bears many children. Many women gave birth to tens of ten children, but they could not get any special affection and love from their husbands, rather they reached the point of divorce.
Can the fight between husband and wife end like this?
Can marital fights end like this, the secret to a happy married life that can save many families from breaking up?
The relationship between husband and wife is very beautiful, but today sometimes the husband has a complaint with the wife and sometimes the wife is disgusted with the husband. Due to the daily fight, not only their own life becomes painful, but its bad effects also start to fall on their children. A relationship ends in separation.
An article is going viral on the internet which summarizes a letter attributed to a woman about how she ended her quarrels with her husband and lead a happy life and this article may also be useful for the readers.
There was a woman whose husband loved her very much. This woman was asked the secret of her happy life that she cooks very delicious food. Or is her husband infatuated with her beauty? Or has she been a woman who has given birth to many children? Or is there another secret of his love?
The woman replied:
The reasons for a happy life are in the hands of the woman herself after the presence of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. If a woman wants, she can make her house a paradise and if she wants, she can make it a hell.
Nor is it a great virtue to be a woman who bears many children. Many women gave birth to tens of ten children, but they could not get any special affection and love from their husbands, rather they reached the point of divorce.
Good cooking is also not a virtue, women are seen complaining about their husbands even after cooking in the kitchen all day.
Then tell me the secret of this happy and joyful life? And how did you deal with the problems and difficulties faced between you and your husband?
The woman replied:
Whenever my husband would get angry and he was undoubtedly a very angry man, I used to remain completely silent (very respectfully) at those moments. Respectful silence means that the eyes do not reflect contempt and sarcasm. A man is very wise and realizes such a situation.
There was a question that why did you not go out of the room in such a situation?
The woman said: Be careful not to act like that, it will seem like that, you want to escape from him and you don't want to know his point of view. It is equally important to agree with
When my husband finished speaking, I used to leave the room, because after all this noise and drinking, I thought he needed rest.
I would go about my daily household chores, and try to keep my mind off the war.
The question was, what did you do in this environment? Abandonment for several days and stop talking etc.?
The woman said: Not at all, the habit of leaving speech is very bad and like a double-edged sword to spoil the relationship with the husband. If you stop talking to your husband, it may be painful for him at first. In the beginning he will try to talk to you but as the days go by he will get used to it. If you stop talking to him for a week, he will develop the ability to not talk to you for two weeks and maybe he will learn to live without you.
Make the husband feel like he is suffocating without you, as if you are like air for him, as if you are the water that he is living by drinking.
What did you do after that?
The woman said: After some time, I would go to him with juice or hot tea, and would say to him politely, take tea and drink. I was sure that he would want that tea or juice at that moment, my behavior and conversation with my husband was as if there was no anger or fight between us, whereas now my husband is the one with me. He was insisting and repeatedly asking if I am not angry with him. Every time I used to reply to him that no, I am not angry at all.
After that he would always apologize for his rude behavior and talk to me lovingly for hours.
So did you believe his loving words?
Answer: Yes, of course, I am not ignorant. That I should believe the things my husband says to me in anger and not believe the things he says to me in a calm and loving state?
So where did your self-respect go?
Woman: What is the name of respect? If you believe the bitter words of an angry person and make it a problem of your self-esteem, but do not give any importance to the words that he says to you in a loving and calm environment. Saying!
I immediately forgot the bitter and bitter words spoken in the state of anger and listened carefully to their loving and useful words. Is tied to
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