Let us begin with an interesting story of Sara and Sam.
It was just after 1:00 pm and Sara was getting hungry. She had put a few productive hours of work at her desk and decided to get a bite to eat at a nearby coffee shop. A few minutes later, Sam walked into the coffee shop. He, too, was on his lunch break. Sam sat down at a table a few feet away from Sara. The same waitress served Sara and Sam that afternoon. Each customer waited about the same amount of time before the waitress took the order. Each of them received their meal around the same time. Each of them was served well-prepared, wholesome food. And each waited the same amount of time for the waitress to deliver the check But that's where the similarities ended. Sara had walked into the coffee shop with a smile, a spring in her step and a very positive outlook on the world. It was plain for everyone to see. Her body language and her posture reflected her optimism. Sara had a delightful lunch, exchanged some pleasant conversation with the waitress, and went back to work with a re-charged battery.
Sam, on the other hand, had entered the scowl on his face. He looked like he’d been sucking on sour pickles all morning. He was hunched over and tense. His body language cried out "Stay away from me!" He was annoyed when the waitress didn’t take his order immediately. He was annoyed at how long it took for his meal to arrive. He complained about the food, and was furious when he didn't get his check right away.
Why did Sara and Sam have such different experiences in the coffee shop? Remember that each was treated in exactly the same way. It comes down to this: Sara sees the world with a positive attitude. Sam sees the world with a negative attitude –
A Definition Of Attitude
Think of your attitude as the mental filter through which you experience the world. Some people see the world through the filter of optimism (the glass being half full) while others see life through a filter of pessimism (the glass being half empty). Let me give you some examples to explain the difference between a positive attitude and a negative attitude.
• The person with the negative attitude thinks “I CAN’T”?
• The person with the positive attitude thinks “I CAN.”
• The person with the negative attitude dwells on problems.
• The person with the positive attitude concentrates on solutions.
• The person with the negative attitude finds fault with others.
• The person with the positive attitude looks for the good in others.
• The person with the negative attitude focuses on what's missing.
• The person with the positive attitude counts his or her blessings.
• The person with the negative attitude sees limitations.
• The person with the positive attitude sees possibilities.
I could go on and on with examples, but I'm sure you get the When I talk to audiences about attitude, I often like to use pictures. They help people to understand and remember I said. Let me paint this picture for you: Your attitude is your window to the world.
Everyone Starts With A Clean Mental Window
Let's take a few moments to discuss why I say that your attitude is our window to the world. We all start out in life with a good attitude-or, should I say, a clean mental window. Just watch young children. They're always laughing and giggling. They have a sunny disposition. They love to explore new things.
Consider the attitude of a child who's learning to walk. When he stumbles and falls down, what does he do? I'll tell you what he doesn't do. He doesn't frown or blame the carpet. He doesn't point fingers at his mother or father for giving him lousy instructions He doesn't quit. Oh, no. He smiles, gets. up again and makes another attempt. And another. He keeps going for weeks and weeks with a positive attitude until he gets it right! His window is squeaky clean, and he feels like he can conquer the world. But as you know, there comes a point where life starts throwing some dirt at our windows. And here's what happens:
• Our windows get splattered by criticism from parents and teachers.
• Our windows get smudged by ridicule from peers.
• Our windows get smeared by rejection. . Our windows get soiled by disappointments.
• Our windows get clouded by doubt.
The problem is, the dirt keeps building up, and all too many people do nothing about it. They continue to go through life with a filthy window. They lose their enthusiasm. They get frustrated depressed. And most tragically, they give up on their dreams because they failed to clean their attitude window.
That's the road I was travelling down. I had a dirty window I was an attorney. And the longer I stayed in that field, the filthier my window got. I saw no possibilities. How could I? My window was splattered with the mud of negativity.
Wash Your Window
But then by the grace of God, I learned that all I had to clean off my window! I had to improve my attitude se see the world clearly again. After I removed the grime window, a whole new world opened up for me. The frustration and depression lifted. I had more confidence. For the first time in many years, I could see the magnificent possibilities that life had to offer.
And I was able to make a career transition and do work that I absolutely love. When you really think about it, I'm in the business of helping people to clean off their windows-to get a better attitude!
atti fact the thro ins hor Do you see what I mean when I say that attitude is your window to the world? Can you appreciate how your attitude affects the way you see everything in your life? More importantly, are you beginning to see those areas where your window needs to be washed?
You Control Your Attitude
It's your job to keep your window clean. Sure, I can give you a little encouragement. And other people can encourage you, too. But in the end, nobody else can do it for you.
You see, you always have a choice. You can leave the filth on your window and look at life through a smeared glass. But there are consequences to that approach-and they're not very pretty. You'll go through life negative and frustrated. You'll be unhappy. You'll achieve only a fraction of what you're capable of achieving.
There's a better way. When you choose to take out your squeegee and clean your window, life will be brighter and sunnier. You will be healthier and happier. You'll set some ambitious goals ... and achieve them. Your dreams will come alive again!
Still doubting whether you really have the power to change attitude? Perhaps you're thinking, “Jeff, that's easy for you to attitude wouldn't be so good if you had my problems Granted, some really devastating things may have happened to you. You may have endured much suffering. There is nothing Perhaps you're going through some either good or bad, tough times right now. But, even under but thinking the worst circumstances, I still contend makes it so. that you have the power to choose your - William Shakespeare attitude. I'm not saying it's easy. But the fact remains, the choice is yours. Let me tell you about a man who is well qualified to speak on the subject of attitude. His name is Dr. Viktor Frank, and he went through hell on earth- and managed not only to survive ... but to inspire millions of people. You see, Viktor Frank endured years of horror as a prisoner in the Nazi death camps. To make matters worse, his father, mother, brother and his wife died in camps or were killed in gas chambers. Every day, Frank and the other prisoners suffered from hunger, cold and brutality. Can a person control his or her attitude in a situation like that? Here's what Dr. Frank had to say about the importance of attitude in his best-selling book, Man's Search For Meaning:
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.... Even though conditions such as lack of sleep, insufficient food and various mental stresses may suggest that the inmates were bound to react in certain ways, in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision, and not the result of camp influences alone.
Now, if Dr. Frank and the other prisoners had the ability to choose their attitudes in the face of such unspeakable suffering, who are we to claim that we cannot take control of our attitudes?
As Hugh Downs has said: "A happy certain set of circumstances, but rather a attitudes." That's a powerful statement and it's the truth.
When it's all said and done, you, and you alone, control your attitude.
Attitude And Success
Okay, let's say you clean off your window and develop set of attitudes. window and develop a positive smiling. You sit home and think positive thoughts Will that alone lead you to outrageous success and the realization of your fondest dreams? No, it won't ... is, just having a great attitude.
To maximize your potential and a person with a certain achieve your goals, you need to apply certain time-honoured principles of success that have helped millions of people to achieve extraordinary results. And they'll do the same for you! In the next 11 lessons of this book, I'll be taking you through these success principles, step by step. You'll learn about confronting your fears, overcoming adversity, harnessing the power of commitment and much, much more. You'll get the information and inspiration you need to start living the life you've always dreamed about.
Still, you may be wondering, what do these success principles have to do with attitude?
In a word—EVERYTHING! That's why I say attitude is everything
Without a positive attitude, you can't activate the other principles. Your success in life begins and ends with your attitude.
It's only when you clean your attitude window that the other success principles can shine through. If your window is smudged, only a fraction of the light of these principles can get through. Your success is limited, or even blocked.
But when you learn to keep your attitude window clear, the light comes pouring in and you can use these empowering principles to earn more money, have more satisfying relationships, increase your spiritual awareness and reach your full potential.
When you combine a positive attitude with the other success principles, you become unstoppable!
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