"Why Do People Lie?" was written by a reader of one of my articles. He stated, "You might be interested in the same article, which includes examples of every lie women tell... Women lie a lot, at least in the early stages of dating."
As a woman, I'm not sure how many ladies lie on days, but I am aware of how many males sleep on days. So I chose to write about a date that turned out to be a lie in general.
Lies like "I have to go," "I'm busy," and "I'm on another phone right now" irritated the man who wrote to me. I'll contact you again.
This, I believe, is correct. Women are taught not to hurt men's feelings. They've been taught that if telling the truth is dangerous, they should tell "white falsehoods." In addition, when they are truthful, they are frequently harsh or negative.
I frequently encourage women who don't want to date to say things like "I don't feel in love with you," "There appears to be no chemistry between us," or "I don't feel at ease talking to you." "Your power does not respect me," one of my clients informed the man who had contacted him the first time. Because of this, I don't want to meet you." He was receptive to what he was saying, and they had a pleasant talk.
Men are rarely put in a position to say no because they are often the most expensive. Men, in my experience, frequently lie to women, but in different ways. My client, a psychologist, for example, dated a man who told her he was in town. She was overjoyed to learn this, as personal development was a priority for her. He later learned that he was being treated because a judge had determined that he had punched his ex-wife in the stomach during her pregnancy. This was given to him by his ex-wife. His resistance to accept the truth was an attempt to control and impress him with his emotions.
To delight a woman, men often "lie" by coming in strong, costly, and sending flowers. When the woman is "attached," the focus shifts away from her. He wasn't giving to give; he was giving to get. Many men are well-known for knowing exactly what to say to a woman to melt her heart. Even if women knew he was married, a man in one of the 5-day seminars who was married but now enamored with other women highlighted how easy it was to charm women. "Women have a burning need to be seen and heard. All I have to do now is provide the woman the information she seeks, and I'll have found her.
I can see how the item he'll offer me will be lowered. "She just loves me when I see these things in her." Some women in intensive care walked up to her, unaware that she was breastfeeding them! He didn't tell them he was lying about them; he was privately promising that he would continue to visit them, love them, care for them, and support them, even if he was unable to do so.
Both men and women are guilty of lying on a variety of occasions. Men and women who desire to "harm" another person are frequently hurting their own feelings. Both men and women have the ability to open a spell and appear to be helpful and compassionate at first, but it turns out they have used one in their time of need.
What are your options for getting off the opposite side of the lie? Keep an eye out for your intuition. Tell it like it is. So that you don't risk being rejected by others, learn to give yourself credit and the attention you're attempting to acquire from someone else. Also, when someone lies to you, don't take yourself too seriously. Their deception is more about them than it is about you.
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